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How to make love to a woman

So, I saw this movie titled “How to make love to a woman” over the weekend – very nice movie #IMO and it inspired today’s post so, here are some pointers that will help next time you’re making love to your woman….enjoy.

Put her in ‘The Mood’: Before you have sex, you have to put your woman in the mood. This involves setting up the right kind of environment, which will enhance her pleasure. To put her in the mood, your focus should be to create an atmosphere, which emphasizes sensuality.

Use foreplay: Foreplay is one of the most important things to learn about how to make love to a woman. Using foreplay is the best way to transition from a conversation to having sex. Typically foreplay involves kissing, “heavy petting” and sensual massages. The rule of thumb is to really focus on her pleasure and start building up intensity.

Use your mouth: Towards the end of foreplay, you need to go oral. Start slowly and use your tongue and fingers. Since women like different things in oral sex, try to experiment with various oral sex techniques.

You’re probably wondering what’s going on here. Well, don’t think too far. Yes. I started the post and canceled it a few paragraphs down the line. The question is why? As I was typing realized I had gotten it all wrong. I didn’t want to join in with everyone else and mislead those poor people who truly are clueless when it comes to making love to a woman. All that stuff I wrote above, well, to be honest, you’ll probably see a variation of it somewhere online but what I’ve come to realize is that there should never be one standard answer to the question: how do you make love to a woman. The reason is simple; we were all made in different special ways. Some like it rough, others like it slow. Some want foreplay, other don’t (believe it or not). Some want the lights on; others will not function if they see your face.

In writing this post, I actually sampled some opinions; I asked some female friends how they wanted to be loved in bed. What they did was to further justify the point I’ve now arrived at. Before you hiss and walk away, I’m not saying there are no foundational rules; I mean, every woman wants to feel that sensual desire, that hunger for her when she’s in bed and as often as you can, try to make sure her train gets to ORLANDO (go figure).

All those instructions about kissing here or kissing there, saying this or saying that, will only get you in trouble (this is the point where a lot of guys go: he doesn’t know what he’s talking about; I’m awesome in bed……… err…. did I hear a sister say shut-up? Thank you). The fact is, except you’re perfectly sexually compatible, the first couple of times you do it with a new person will probably only be average. Why? Cause you have to learn the new territory. Sex was designed as a “team event” that should end-up good for both parties so it’s only natural for everyone who starts the journey to want to get to “their” desired end. Translation: If she see’s that you’re shifting off the rail, she’ll guide you. Guys need to learn to drop all the macho-I’ve-boned-a-thousand-girls title at the door when getting with a new partner.

Humble thyself and watch out for that little flinch when she doesn’t like it, that endearing moan that means don’t stop, that smile even with her eyes closed that says yes, that was amazing. And what happens when you don’t see any of these? Ask! Odé. Not while you’re doing it. And certainly not in a student asking a teacher kinda way.  You should know this person, you should know how best to put it and if you’re lucky, she might just tell you without you asking. Don’t take it as an insult. It’s called constructive criticism. Use them to construct bridges that’ll get you both to ORLANDO when next you get a shot.

*Please Note
The title of this post is how to make LOVE to a woman. Not how to f*ck a woman. If she’s just a booty call or a one-night-stand, this post might not totally apply to you.

There you go, you’ve heard my opinion, time to share yours. Hit me up with your comments and views. Cheers and s/o to Uti for repping us yesterday.

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24 thoughts on “How to make love to a woman

  1. Hmmmm…. this is the 3rd article I’m reading here and I officially love this ‘Tools’ guy whoever he is….

    Posted by Zee | October 18, 2010, 6:52 am
  2. Ok…Once again i like this article!There’s jst sth different bout this guy!!Nice one

    Posted by Dara | October 18, 2010, 7:17 am
  3. Confaaaaaam utunu!!!!
    One thing is important though: you mustu la abo before you can tona sibe.

    Posted by Darkside | October 18, 2010, 7:35 am
  4. Nice one! I like the way you started off with the stereotypical “instructions” then went on to give your own solid opinions.
    I totally endorse this.
    You’ve just won yourself a fan…

    Posted by medianemesis | October 18, 2010, 7:45 am
  5. LOL @ ODE! Hahahaha! Tools are u saying one night stands don’t wanna cum too? *side eye* lol! Lovely post once again.

    Posted by Nono | October 18, 2010, 8:03 am
  6. lmfao… err…well… did I say that?

    Posted by thetoolsman | October 18, 2010, 8:18 am
  7. Thanks a lot…

    Posted by thetoolsman | October 18, 2010, 8:18 am
  8. *dead* … this totally killed me… should I translate: “You mustu lick the plate before you can light it up” …. doesn’t do it justice though..lol

    Posted by thetoolsman | October 18, 2010, 8:20 am
  9. hmm… I’m green with envy… I’ll let him know though…

    Posted by thetoolsman | October 18, 2010, 8:23 am
  10. Hahaha! I luv it… Makes a lot of sense.. A lot of guys get the whole thing wrong and I don’t even undastand what’s there to be proud about ‘I’ve shagged a thousand women’ mind u guys! It doesn’t mean you’re and expert in the field of LOVING a woman, but proli just an expert in CHOPPING and CLEANING mouth… There has to be some sort of humility. If ur not loving her right, just come off ur high horse and ask her what she wud like… Its not a race abeg so u say things to ur buddies that ‘oh, it took me 10mins to cum, u nko talk ur own’.. Anyways.. Point is.. This post makes so much sense…

    Posted by TK | October 18, 2010, 8:41 am
  11. Nice one! My fav paragraph/sentence is : ‘Guys need to learn to drop all the macho-I’ve-boned-a-thousand-girls title at the door when getting with a new partner.”…which is so so true!

    Posted by tsinwe | October 18, 2010, 9:59 am
  12. solid!

    Posted by olawunmi | October 18, 2010, 11:11 am
  13. Guess u got the Tools man…well done,the whole world’s starting to hear aboutchu…I’m glad I read this cos it might jez break that writers block I’ve been suffering from for a bit..nice

    Posted by Ayorinde Adunse | October 19, 2010, 7:47 am
  14. Hmmmm Adetula….ok oh..will practice it on the new squeeze i got this weekend…nice 1 tho

    keep it real brof!

    Posted by Kartoon101 | October 19, 2010, 9:06 am
  15. bro……..ur simply outstanding with ur write ups………. u’ve always been anyway since way back

    Posted by Niyi Adelaja | October 22, 2010, 12:56 pm
  16. I think this blog still has space for one more cheer.. Liked every single part of it. Especially the ORLANDO part.

    Posted by Paul. E | October 25, 2010, 10:38 am
  17. lol… Thanks alot.

    Posted by thetoolsman | October 25, 2010, 11:35 am
  18. Lmao @ orlando….once again I ♥ (y)

    Posted by jhola | November 2, 2010, 11:05 am
  19. Just discovered your blog and I’ve read several of ur posts and decided to comment on this one..
    I love writing style and you have a great sense of humour mixed with a lot of truth..
    Great work.. Pls keep ’em coming
    I’m so hooked!

    Posted by Ugofrances | November 6, 2010, 6:01 am
  20. Just discovered your blog and I’ve read several of ur posts and decided to comment on this one..
    I love your writing style and you have a great sense of humour mixed with a lot of truth..
    Great work.. Pls keep ’em coming
    I’m so hooked!

    Posted by Ugofrances | November 6, 2010, 6:02 am
  21. 2la, is this Niyi Adelaja that went to sef?

    Posted by Dokita | April 3, 2011, 4:35 pm
  22. I’ve read a couple of your stuff, really nice! Some had me in stitches man! Others…..left me with tantalising thoughts of mischief to act out!

    Posted by Temi | April 6, 2011, 12:20 pm
  23. very informative an inspiring

    Posted by how to make love to a woman | July 8, 2013, 6:26 pm

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