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Playing perfect

Hey people. Hope the weekend was good… I’m sure some will expect me to comment about this weekend but I’ve chosen not to. So, straight away to the Monday rush. I’m excited cause I’ll be introducing y’all to my first guest blogger today. (*inner child back flip*) Her name is Pemi. She’s a young writer and I’m very sure you’ll be seeing her around here a lot more from now on. We’ll definitely appreciate your feedback. Cheers.

Feb 14

Somewhere Not So Far Away

The weather alone should have told them it was going to be a horrible night. The sky was dark, clouds heavy with rain. The cold wind whirled around them consistently, as if urging them to turn around; ‘Gooo Hoooome’ the wind seemed to be hissing.

But they trudged on obstinately. It was the one day in the year when they actually tried to remember why they fell in love. Except New Year’s of course, but they usually got really drunk before any reasons came up. They were a very attractive couple; he was tall and broad where she was petite. She had her left hand through the crook of his arm while her right hand tried to prevent her full skirt from dancing around her head in the wind. He looked down at her pretty face and smiled; she glanced up at him and returned his smile.

‘Oh, why did she have to change?’ he thought to himself.

‘Oh, why can’t he just change?’ she thought to herself.

They finally stepped into La Rio de Janeiro. Raymond had been here earlier in the week for a ‘business date’ with Natasha. But Layo didn’t know that, of course. The place was crowded but he strode up to one of the waitresses dressed in black and white. At his tap, she turned around to face them with a very wide, red lipstick-ed smile. She had a matching red rose on her chest, the size of the rose and the amount of revealed cleavage competed for attention.

‘Damn, now that’s a feast for the eyes!’ Raymond forced his eyes back to her face. “We have a reservation. Raymond and Layo.” ‘I remember when Layo bothered to dress up for me’; he looked down at Layo and mentally added, ‘when it’s not Valentine’s day.’

The red waitress walked them over to their table and Layo watched Raymond watch her skimpy black skirt. “Honey, the place looks beautiful!” Layo said. ‘Though you haven’t noticed that. Why don’t you invite her to join us? Moron. I remember when you looked at me that way.’

When they were settled at their table and the red waitress and her tempting wiles out of sight; Raymond reached over to hold Layo’s hand. “So, do you like the ring?” ‘What choice do you have, it was bloody expensive! And Natasha picked it out, she has good taste.’

Layo smiled; “It’s beautiful. I absolutely adore it!” ‘You never listen to anything I say. I wanted a necklace. Besides, Dapo got me a similar thing, with matching earrings!’

“I’m so glad we could do this tonight. You’ve being staying late at the office these days.” Layo said. ‘You cheating idiot; you could come up with a better lie.’

“Trying to make money for us.” He forced a laugh. ‘Come home to what? You never let me touch you anymore! Ice queen!’

An hour and a half later; they were about ready to give up on their phony smiles and empty conversations. The red waitress had shown up far too many times than was necessary; reminding Raymond of the days Layo had fought for his attention and reminding Layo of the days Raymond had eyes for her only.

“Shit! It’s raining! And we’re packed down the street. We have to wait it out.”

‘Oh Lord, make it stop! I can’t take this anymore. If only he’d talk to me; I’m sure we could make this work. I could make him happy.’ Layo thought.

This bloody rain had better stop now. If only she understood me; this wouldn’t be happening! We could be so happy.’ Raymond thought.

Thunder clapped and the rain fell in torrents; leaving the estranged lovers staring at everything but themselves.


For me, this is just typical of a lot of couples out there. Yes, A LOT. I’ll just never understand why people keep these feelings bottled-up inside. That being said, have you ever been a Raymond or are you Layo? Share your experiences or thoughts on why you’d rather only think than express yourself to your partner.

UPDATE: Thoughts are italized and boldened. Also, if you enjoyed this post, kindly hit the share on Facebook or Twitter button below. Thanks 🙂

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26 thoughts on “Playing perfect

  1. Its so easy to articulate urself when u r thinking, but when its time to actually speak out, its harder, for me anyway!

    Posted by oluwatowbad | February 28, 2011, 9:14 am
  2. In Most cases, communication is the missing link to problem solving in relationships..u cnt work out your relationship in ur mind!! Speak out nw! Tulz! I love ur guest writer already..;)brilliant!

    Posted by kechilauren | February 28, 2011, 9:21 am
  3. Communication is the hardest thing to do in any relationship. Especially after the early thrill has worn off. Each partner expects the other partner to be psychic.

    Posted by temmyno1 | February 28, 2011, 9:56 am
  4. Communication does give clarity, though it doesn’t always end up being positive. Sadly there is a very big possibility that communication would only confirm the need to end things, I think this is what a lot of people are afraid of, thus they keep silent. But the truth shall set you free. :o)

    Posted by SoniaofHBF | February 28, 2011, 10:35 am
  5. Another common way ppl see Vals day; an annual tradition for people that live in a relationship regardless of the health of it.

    Tula (Pemi), were those all unspoken thoughts in quotes, ‘thoughts out loud’, or a mixture of both?

    But both of them have great senses of humor for couples with issues sha. It’s just too bad. Their beginning musta been really beautiful. Ofcourse it’s just a fiction so no need brooding too much over it.

    Nice post… delayed tho, by 14days, lol.

    Posted by radeyo | February 28, 2011, 10:37 am
  6. Transforming thoughts to words is a daunting task which often leads to a debacle. A good read, thumbs up P.

    Posted by iwired | February 28, 2011, 10:49 am
  7. Communication is important, I had a 4yr relationship and we always spoke about everything…sometimes gud things wer said and sometimes bad things wer said,..sometimes fights wud break out..sometimes peace wud reign….but more than communication, what sustains relationships are “love” and “tolerance” ….

    Posted by D-Mac | February 28, 2011, 10:58 am
  8. sometimes, its easier to jus bottle up emotions esp if u know saying it out wouldn’t change much..all you can do is hope ur love for each other is strong enough to rekindle ur spark even after finding out bout d “Natashas” n hot sassy waitresses..

    Posted by subbysmollz | February 28, 2011, 11:26 am
  9. Neva been Layo (or raymond lol) but I guess fear of changin the status quo to a worse positon keeps one “mum”. But me I rather open up instead of puttin up with a farce..
    Lovely piece P.

    Posted by Dee | February 28, 2011, 11:57 am
  10. Atimes your partner can’t take the truth and we are scared to rock the boat most times so we just live in our lies ans frustrations. I have been a Raymond before,and I sure wasn’t having a good time. When I got the balls to speak up, it turned out she was a Layo too. Me speaking and hearing from her made us better people.

    Posted by oba | February 28, 2011, 12:38 pm
  11. Brilliant. Insightful view of wt ppl r rili goin thru. Ego & pride combines to lock two souls in unending turmoil…a very real story right there. Thumbs up, ‘Pemi.

    Posted by TheMentalMosaic | February 28, 2011, 12:43 pm
  12. Toolsman,

    If there is a way that I can attack your blog, believe me, I will find it!

    You stole Pemi’s first blog experience from me and I would never forgive you even though your blog is quite nice and you’ve got interesting content.

    **Now googling wordpress blog attack technigues for dummies

    I shall return!

    Posted by Afrosays | February 28, 2011, 3:19 pm
  13. 1st off,Lmao @ d rose an cleavage competing 4 attention,don’t read anything as funny these days. Pemi,u killed it,hope u do something really innovative with ur writing like d ‘NollyBooks’ (the authour’s name escapes me),without excluding the ‘naij’an’flavour. As for relationships,the beginning of the end is lack of communication,no two ways around that. Brilliant stuff

    Posted by Shane | February 28, 2011, 3:23 pm
  14. Lovely piece!!! Lol @ d rose and the cleavage fighting for attention.. Way to go!, funny enough these people where communicating all along, they weren’t just engaging in the right conversations i.e speaking out their minds. Easier said than done tho…

    Posted by boopeyezfan | February 28, 2011, 3:35 pm
  15. Well, dis a simple scenerio of wat apens wen u don’t realy no wat u want!!!av a retink b4 makin comitments pple!!!

    Posted by dotun | February 28, 2011, 4:05 pm
  16. Nice work……

    Posted by Fadekemi | February 28, 2011, 4:14 pm
  17. I think bottling up your emotions is sometimes whats BEST for you and whoever because you could let it out and realize its actually not what you intended to feel…. Nice blog.

    Posted by ajoke | February 28, 2011, 5:27 pm
  18. Communication is d key to any relationship and wen both pple involved cnt speak out,itz bad.but iytz hard for me cos somtimes I v all dese tots dat I fink I cn let out but once I set my eyes on him “cat got my toungue”mute.

    Posted by pere | February 28, 2011, 7:25 pm
  19. Good work pemi! Communication is really a key factor in a relationship because there is no way you can just leave ur thots thinkin they will come to life by themselves or smthin.. I believe in people sayin what they want not just thinkin or assumin things..thnx

    Posted by opeTeddy | February 28, 2011, 8:29 pm
  20. K..most people including me went on about hw communication is “key” in a relationship.but serzly I fnk understnding “when” nd “how” to communicate is also important.bcuz sayin the right thing at d wrong time cn be extremely dangerous!

    Posted by kechilauren | February 28, 2011, 9:16 pm
  21. i agree wit ms kechilauren..*wink* if one doesnt think of d when n how aspect den the whole process might result to a disaster…

    Posted by ajoke | March 1, 2011, 12:20 am
  22. Pemz, nice work!! Communication is definitely key, ur bf is nt a mind reader as well as ur gf. Personally, I would talk, jokingly or seriously, I would definitely say something 🙂

    Posted by Temitope | March 9, 2011, 2:12 pm
  23. Communication is indeed key. But like Kechilauren said, the when and how is as important as communication itself and not just in romantic relationships as we all know. At times, you may be a Raymond or a Layo not ‘cos of sumthing your partner is doing wrong but simply a phase you are going through therefore you need to be really sure before blurting out sumthing that may irreparably destroy an otherwise ‘okay’ relationship.

    Posted by Kara_Kookie | March 11, 2011, 9:30 pm
  24. However, if you absolutely have to talk, be nice, polite and very considerate and remember ‘Que sera sera’… If he/she is meant to be yours, a million and one ‘we need to talk’ won’t do nothing but strengthen the love and respect you both feel deep down (even if yo both struggling to remember what that felt like):D

    Posted by Kara_Kookie | March 11, 2011, 9:37 pm


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