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Wednesday Dialogue

Lay or stay?

Ok, so this really isn’t a post. It’s more of a survey but I didn’t just want to put up a poll. Now, a friend of mine sent me a link to this blog post on how men should totally call chics after shagging (especially if it’s the first time and if it wasn’t defined as a one night stand from the onset). Well, this got me thinking about the endless debate on how a lot of us seem to know exactly what is we want from someone seconds, minutes, hours or for some, days after that first encounter.

Now, don’t jump the gun, Im not going to tell you to do us a list (maybe I will). What I’m just trying to see is if we can all come up with an average amount of time for guys and also for the ladies for how long it’ll take you to know if he/she is a lay or a stay.

For frequent readers here, y’all will know I can be a very very picky person (even sexually). Well, thats me. A lot of guys I know care very little about how intelligent the carrier of the yoni they stick their shlung in as long as they don’t intend for her to have their kids. In fact, screw intelligence, some don’t even care if they look like shit and I guess for people like this, coming up with an average amount of time it’ll take to classify chics should be minimal – seconds perhaps???

As for the ladies, things could get a bit tricky since they probably take a lot more “non-physical” characteristics into consideration. (I could be wrong here). My guess is that in making her decision, she’ll like to know what you do, the kinda genes that run through your family (hell no) and yada yada yada.

Before, I get to the erm… “methodology” I’ll just share my opinion. Some will say, love grows on you and you need a lot of encounters before you can make that decision and I agree with all of that BUT, I’ll still stay except you’re hooking up/getting married for a reason you more or less have no control over (you knocked her up, his father is Dangote, he is Zukerberg e.t.c. e.t.c), the truth is, after a few encounters – and I say encounters because it doesn’t just stop at looks – you can conveniently tell which side of the coin anyone falls.

That being said, lets get into this. So, I’ll make it easy, before your comment, kindly state your gender and then how long you think it’d take to categorize a person as lay or stay. e.g:

*******

Male

15 seconds

Comment:

*******

 

Ok, there you go, speak your piece. Cheers.

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Discussion

44 thoughts on “Lay or stay?

  1. Female
    3months 😐

    Posted by temmyno1 | March 9, 2011, 9:00 am
  2. Female
    2seconds 😐

    Posted by Zara | March 9, 2011, 9:02 am
  3. actually no… wait…

    male
    2seconds 😐

    Posted by Zara | March 9, 2011, 9:03 am
  4. Male
    20 seconds

    Posted by Random Awesomeness | March 9, 2011, 9:05 am
  5. male
    i think 24 hours is good

    Posted by dammy | March 9, 2011, 9:08 am
  6. but there are some gals you just see and ur going for it, as in you must…. even without talking to the perzin, that one na zero secs ooo,

    Posted by dammy | March 9, 2011, 9:13 am
  7. Female:

    After d 1st encounter, a week.

    Posted by zany | March 9, 2011, 9:17 am
  8. Waaaait! First encounter meaning shag or banter??

    Posted by beforesheimplodes | March 9, 2011, 9:19 am
  9. Male

    2 weeks.

    Posted by Joachim | March 9, 2011, 9:19 am
  10. Male
    1 tweet

    Posted by Yogi | March 9, 2011, 9:19 am
  11. *clears throat* one tweet?

    Posted by temmyno1 | March 9, 2011, 9:20 am
  12. lmao

    Posted by dammy | March 9, 2011, 9:20 am
  13. LMAO!!!!!!! Nice!

    Posted by beforesheimplodes | March 9, 2011, 9:20 am
  14. Either way…

    Posted by thetoolsman | March 9, 2011, 9:21 am
  15. buhahahaha… phooool.. what if the tweet is blank?

    Posted by thetoolsman | March 9, 2011, 9:21 am
  16. LMAO!!! Only you ohh

    Posted by Random Awesomeness | March 9, 2011, 9:24 am
  17. Zara you have issues! LoL

    Posted by beforesheimplodes | March 9, 2011, 9:24 am
  18. yilz ghen ghen!!!!!

    Posted by Random Awesomeness | March 9, 2011, 9:25 am
  19. Yes baby,one tweet. 😉

    Posted by Yogi | March 9, 2011, 9:27 am
  20. Male
    Temmy you know when I decided you’re definitely a keeper?( Avoids football joke) after our first real conversation. 🙂

    Posted by Yilz | March 9, 2011, 9:42 am
  21. Female
    2 encounters: one conversation and one shag

    Posted by kiite | March 9, 2011, 9:45 am
  22. Oh I like this very much…

    Posted by thetoolsman | March 9, 2011, 9:46 am
  23. Female
    2 encounters: one conversation, one shag

    Posted by kiite | March 9, 2011, 9:52 am
  24. Hmm….me gusta mucho esta idea

    Male

    I gotta say..once i see you i know instantly so i say 1 second.

    Other times my judgement might be wrong so it could be after an intense one night stand..

    Other times my judgement might even be more wrong so i’d say after an amazing body-shaking orgasm..

    Timelines for 2 and 3 say a week..

    Posted by awizii | March 9, 2011, 10:03 am
  25. x_x lord! this looks like i wrote it 😐

    Posted by temmyno1 | March 9, 2011, 10:08 am
  26. Female

    One conversation. The first look tells me a lot but conversation seals the deal.

    Posted by Sam-E-yah | March 9, 2011, 10:09 am
  27. Female

    If he’s a good LAY, he’ll definitely STAY!

    Posted by X | March 9, 2011, 10:47 am
  28. hmmm.. interesting …

    Posted by thetoolsman | March 9, 2011, 10:54 am
  29. Female
    4 months :os

    Posted by nike | March 9, 2011, 11:02 am
  30. Female
    4 months

    Posted by kene | March 9, 2011, 12:14 pm
  31. Ah 4 months ke? U have already stayed ni yen!

    Posted by beforesheimplodes | March 9, 2011, 12:30 pm
  32. hahahahaha… abi o..

    Posted by thetoolsman | March 9, 2011, 12:33 pm
  33. Female
    1 phone conversation

    Posted by Honeypot | March 9, 2011, 2:22 pm
  34. Male
    2shags 1convo all in one night

    Posted by person pikin | March 9, 2011, 4:36 pm
  35. Male
    One convo, one sleepover den d 1st kiss seals d decision for me

    Posted by tayo1004 | March 9, 2011, 9:07 pm
  36. bwahahahahaha..you are high

    Posted by MizDahmi | March 10, 2011, 9:11 am
  37. abi ooo..long thing.

    Posted by MizDahmi | March 10, 2011, 9:12 am
  38. OK i totally agree with Sam-E-yah..30mins for a conversation and i know if he stands a chance or not.The look is just an icing on the cake:)

    Posted by MizDahmi | March 10, 2011, 9:15 am
  39. One look, and a stretch of convo

    Posted by BBB | March 10, 2011, 1:28 pm
  40. dwsd… good point. I’m thinking a look at the avatar is enuff tho, lol

    Posted by radeyo | March 10, 2011, 1:52 pm
  41. On the real tho, this is a good question sha. But do ppl really have standard decision durations? I mean, did a guy ever make that decision after say 3mins of conversation for every girl he shagged thereafter? There cant be a standard duration for every guy/girl, IMO. It’s when it clicks to the head dat it clicks, it all depends on how easily the guy/babe to be assessed can be summed up… Again, this is just my opinion.

    Posted by radeyo | March 10, 2011, 2:03 pm
  42. Female
    15minutes

    Posted by Concerned | March 10, 2011, 8:38 pm
  43. It is a tricky one lol. It really depends. Sometimes once the guy opens his mouth and says a few sentence I know he is out in which case I would say about 1 minute, other occassions it could take a couple of hours,

    So:
    Female
    1 minute – couple of hours

    Posted by angel | March 17, 2011, 7:48 am
  44. this is the final truth .

    Posted by Dokita | March 31, 2011, 3:16 pm

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