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Men lie, women lie.

I’m still recovering from the outcome of my last post, so we’ll get to that later. On to today’s business. You’ve probably read the title and wondered, well, that’s pretty much straight forward so what’s he on about? True. There was just no creative way to craft what I was going to write about so I said it the way it is. Men lie, women lie – we all lie. That’s life.

Anyways, my objective here is to see if it’s possible to narrow down what men or women lie about most to just one statement. Yes, a phrase/sentence – perhaps. Not a “thing”. Why would I want to try this seemingly impossible task? Well, maybe its my calling (shoot me), but then again, I had a dream the other day about winning the Nobel peace prize (category withheld). For the purpose of this discourse, I’ve come up with two statements, one for each gender. Here goes:


Women fall in love with ideas.

Some of you might have heard this, in fact, I think it’s a fairly popular saying but have you really given it a thought. I’m talking to the women now cause if this statement is true, you might just find out why men lie about the things they do. Ask a lot, no, A LOT of girls what that guy they’ve been seeing for a few months or even their boyfriend really does and you’ll probably get an answer like: “oh, Tolu is a banker.” Dig deeper and ask what unit? what exactly does he do there? and you might just be looking for trouble. It’s even worse when he’s a, somewhat successful entrepreneur. You’ll probably get something like “Emeka runs his own outfit” Ok, what do they do in his “outfit” – blank.

Don’t get mad just yet, I’m trying to build a case here. I have a friend (some of y’all might know him) some of you have read about human chameleons, well, lets just say he’s one. In his four years in uni I watched as he changed his course (not officially) from medicine to law to engineering to … depending on the requirements he needed for the girl he was seeing at that time. You could work into his room and a stethoscope would be dangling from his bed or you’d see him with huge engineering textbooks e.t.c.

To say he was more than successful with getting the girls (he wanted) would be an understatement. Some months after he graduated and I went to his crib. He was still job hunting and lived in a flat with friends. On that day, he was expecting a girl and I was amazed as he went round all the rooms lending one electronic gadget or the other. I walked into his room later to see it transformed. He laid out about 6 remote controls on his bed and I noticed a loose cheque leaf sticking out of a book by his bed. The cheque leaf was his, written out to one of our other friends; 500k. I shook my head thinking surely, this wasn’t going to work right? He looked at me then and said, “all na idea“. Hours later, as the girl (who turned out to be a… erm… “socialite”) walked out of his room, I thought to myself…. ideas…hmmm…


Men fall in love with pictures.

Well, maybe the more appropriate word would have been paintings. Why? Because as much as you can manipulate a picture taken with a camera, there’s a limit to what you can do. But with a painting, the painter is in control. By painter, I mean women. The canvas? Their bodies. The paint colours, may range from simple makeup to body magic or 90210 (depending on how much of a painting you’re looking at creating). I guess I’ve spoken somewhat extensively about this topic here.

I’d just like to add a new angle. Men fall in love with pictures but they also sometimes paint these pictures themselves. Let me explain. When a guy gets serious with a girl, he wants to know everything and I mean EVERYTHING he can about her. Why? He’s painting that mental picture of you and him hanging out with his friends, his parents e.t.c. He’s imagining what his kids from you will look like, how intelligent they’ll be. Any girl who knows this can easily lie manipulate her way into his heart. And I’ve seen it happen too. The only question is how far is she willing to go? Will you memorize the periodic table or


I think I’ll stop here. These are my statements. Can you come up with any or do you have examples/experiences that can help support mine, use the comment box, speak your mind. Cheers.

PS: This is my 50th post and I promised to celebrate this. I’m cooking up something, watch this space, better still, hit the subscribe button :).

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I mostly refer to myself as an unrepentant media addict .. Well, cause I'm mostly always hunting for information through one media channel or the other... Hit me up on twitter @thetoolsman


31 thoughts on “Men lie, women lie.

  1. hi nonso, im now officially opening this forum…*skips away* brb with something more reasonable :p

    Posted by Zara | March 16, 2011, 9:01 am
  2. Tulaaaaaa ur guy ur gee.

    Posted by hustlergbangba | March 16, 2011, 9:09 am
  3. roflmao. was wondering who beat me. Zara you’re going down.

    p.s we are all still shocked about the outcome of the last post

    Not all girls are that shallow. i know what he does, what unit and even some of the projects. The examples you stated above sound more like flings.


    Posted by temmyno1 | March 16, 2011, 9:11 am
  4. LOL! emmm Nonso you are a stalker. Pretty sure there is a whole new kind of category for your kind.

    Posted by Random Awesomeness | March 16, 2011, 9:14 am
  5. Yea, truly not all girls r that shallow,there r those exception u always talk about + it also depends on how far u want to go wif d relationship.

    Posted by oluwatowbad | March 16, 2011, 9:15 am
  6. tula, i don subscribe o. Rose on Saturday for the celebration.

    Posted by mrbuga | March 16, 2011, 9:15 am
  7. Hehehehehehe… chai. I’ll come back later and comment.

    Posted by Phury | March 16, 2011, 9:16 am
  8. Nice post. Although I really have nothing to contribute to this post. People like us don’t need to manipulate. We steady remain awesome without lifting a finger.

    Posted by Random Awesomeness | March 16, 2011, 9:16 am
  9. hey, i pay attention to details too, like why is that nucca’s hair so damn long, i should shave it while he’s asleep….

    to be honest, i dont pay attention to much, :p, yesterday i forgot the pin to my atm card….(no judgement)

    Its peanut butter jelly time, peanut butter jelly time, peanut butter jelly time,

    Posted by Zara | March 16, 2011, 9:18 am
  10. roflmao 😐

    Posted by temmyno1 | March 16, 2011, 9:25 am
  11. Location, i go submit Mouth

    Posted by kartoon101 | March 16, 2011, 9:26 am
  12. Mr Tools speaks the truth again… I know so many examples of “dead” guys that get correct girls cos of this idea thing. It is really sad. HustlerGbangba n I were just going thru a list of guys n girls that this applies to and the list is too long. *sigh*

    Posted by minini | March 16, 2011, 9:28 am
  13. Who forgets the pin to their…oh look, a bird.

    Posted by temmyno1 | March 16, 2011, 9:30 am
  14. Don’t be jealous

    Posted by Random Awesomeness | March 16, 2011, 9:37 am
  15. Let’s face it these pple(men & women) wnt 2 be lied 2, even if they dnt knw it. Dats y they hv these ridiculous tins they tell pple they hv 2 hv on their cvs b4 they can get wit dem… In conclusion, men lie, women lie, life goes on.

    Posted by Kayy | March 16, 2011, 9:48 am
  16. I’m sorry I’ve got no story to share but I agree with Temmy, what you described sounds like casual flings or ‘sarewa’ :D, in which case the ‘idea’ is prolly so huge both parties, deep down are aware they are being scammed. Without deceit tho, a lot of guys do fall for ‘flash in the pan’ girls. *shrug*. Nice post but 182 comments for the previous one tho? Wow!

    Posted by Kara | March 16, 2011, 9:49 am
  17. Nyc post! Maybe 70% accurate…

    Posted by nengie | March 16, 2011, 9:50 am
  18. Tula, u dey fear name names *evil chuckle*…..I shall now name a few suspects…..Salala, The god and our bearded dude….Yes? Tula

    Posted by person pikin | March 16, 2011, 9:55 am
  19. 1st: D crowd hailed him “awesome” as he entered in2 d stadium*
    2nd: he hailed himself “awesome as he entered in2 d stadium. **now running unda d table. Lol

    Posted by typewrita | March 16, 2011, 10:03 am
  20. Women lie mostly about their appearance/how many ppl they been with

    Guys lie about money and their intentions.

    I say if we all stop lying to each other, our lives would be simpler.

    Posted by Gbemi | March 16, 2011, 10:05 am
  21. Fantasy! Dats d word!

    Posted by thumbwriter | March 16, 2011, 10:06 am
  22. *they’ve

    Posted by Gbemi | March 16, 2011, 10:06 am
  23. Once again, Tula has dne it. IMO, a girl’s degree of attention to details in her man’s life solely depends on how much d girl genuinely likes him. Trust me, if I don’t give a sh*t about u, I won’t ask questions n any detail u tell me goes thru one ear n comes outta d oda. Bad habit…but dats how it is.

    Posted by Amma16 | March 16, 2011, 10:09 am
  24. I think people have really summed it up. What tools desribed up there has to be “chop and clean mouth”. When a girl genuinely likes a guy, she tries to know evrythng about him..what he does at work, she might evn kno the name of his boss and colleagues.. I thnk that applies to men too

    Posted by SB | March 16, 2011, 12:41 pm
  25. hmmm you have a point, but the guy changing his degree every minute and the cheque leaf is another level sha.

    yes we ladies definitely love ideas! But you have ruined it all for now knowing that dude might be lying!

    I still think there is no reason to lie! why lie! lol if the bab / guy does not want you for who you are then you probably dont need that person in your life!

    Posted by angelsbeauty | March 16, 2011, 12:59 pm
  26. Choi. Did I hear sum1 say Salala? He tried his game on me once. If not for the timely intervention from a couple of mutual friends, I for don enter one chance

    Posted by SheWhoMustNotBeNamed | March 16, 2011, 2:03 pm
  27. My opinion
    Guys LIE a lotttttttttttttttttttt
    WOmen LIE

    Posted by BBB | March 16, 2011, 5:50 pm
  28. ALL NA PACKAGING!!! NOOOOOOOO…say it isn’t so!!!!

    Posted by ICOULDBEILLSKILLZ | March 17, 2011, 8:41 am
  29. It’s all part of d “grand design”. The “hunted” gets smart, the “hunter” gets smarter…
    P.S: Has anybody seen d movie “the invention of lying”…the world was soooo boring without lies…*smh*

    Posted by NOTAPEOPLEPERSON | March 17, 2011, 11:15 am
  30. @toolsman, my second comment on your blog, expect to see me here regularly. No apologies.

    Articulating your thoughts and putting it out in such a way that it draws people into a serious discussion can’t be an easy task, thumbs up…….

    In my opinion, this post is with very little context and this is evident in the comments section. Are we talking flings? Short term? long term relationships? Anybody who has been in a serious relationship is aware that lies told at the beginning of a relationship are found out as the relationship deepens. Sometimes it is the potential discovery of these lies that stop some relationships from deepening.

    If we agree that perception is everything, then we can all agree that it makes sense for civil engineer to wear a suit to an engineering interview although he may never need to wear one when he eventually gets the job.

    Will I put an effort into making myself more appealing to a girl I am interested in? Yes. Do I expect a girl I just met to put efforts into her she presents herself to me? Yes I do.

    Sometimes, an idea of something is all that is required. A girl may just need to know that this guy showing an interest in her is a banker, that is all she needs to let him through the door……six months down the line, if they are both serious with themselves, she should have started becoming aware of the challenges he faces in the workplace, his job satisfaction levels, etc. This is true because these kind of things come up in conversations between adults.

    As par the make up, body magic and wonderbras, oh well, this isn’t rocket science, they come off so fast, that one realizes that the only purposes they served in the first place was to attract the you -the guy and stimulate envy from other girls.

    The line between emphasizing our finer qualities and telling outright lines is very thin. The ability not to step beyond this line is dictated by our individual self esteem and values.

    I once tweeted “Believing a girl’s lie is most times,the shortest route to her pants while massaging a guy’s ego, is also most times,the shortest route to his affection/pocket/attention.

    My name is @LagosHunter and I was here…….

    Note: I own the rights to all typos and grammar errors 100%,pls copyright with permission.

    Posted by Lagoshunter | March 17, 2011, 1:22 pm
  31. Lagoshunter has said it all.. The truth always comes out eventually and the true picture gets known.. The next question is “to stay or to go”?

    Posted by Domina | March 26, 2011, 4:47 pm

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