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SWS: Single Woman Syndrome

Hey people. Let me start with a HUGE apology for being away for a bit. I’d like to blame the bloody aliens that abducted me but erm…. Anyways, big shout out to Deji who deputized for me on Friday, I know a lot of the guys won’t forgive me till I do a male version of that post so we’ll get to that later.

As for the elusive series “Our best friends wedding”, I seem to be having issues with the length of the posts on that. (Yes, I don’t want y’all snoozing on me). Solution is to break the series down, meaning I’m going to be putting up more posts from now on. Watch this space.

To today’s business. This topic has bugged me for a while and when I came across it online last week, I knew I had to write something. I’ve decided to throw it out there and see if we can solve this together. A lot of decent, amazing women I know have stayed single for waaaaaay too long and most of them have at one point or the other come to me to ask why? I’ve thought up a few answers. Here goes…

Emotions

Well, we all have them (even us guys too). The problem here is when certain women allow their emotions to guide all of their actions and when things go south, they have to work harder to undo the damage. When emotions guide ALL your actions, there’s mostly always more to everything as far as you’re concerned. If he calls more often than he does on one particular day, it maybe means he’s done something wrong. If he asks too many questions about one of your friends, he probably has issues with her or some hidden agenda.

OCD-esque

Many black women with SWS probably have what the white folks call OCD (Obsessive-compulsive disorder). What is OCD? It’s an anxiety disorder in which people have unwanted and repeated thoughts, feelings, ideas, sensations (obsessions), or behaviors that make them feel driven to do something (compulsions). I’ll give you an example; excessive fear of heartbreak and the compulsion to repeatedly run away from guys once they show the slightest hint of emotions e.g. All is well till he asks you to spend the night at his crib.

Trust issues

Now, this stems from the first point. Like I said, emotions seem to complicate most things. Trust is a major part of every relationship. Women who exhibit symptoms of this syndrome usually don’t have issues trusting. Nope. For them to have committed themselves to liking someone that much, they’ve already crossed the trust barrier. The issue here is with them. Consciously or unconsciously, they present themselves to their partners as being difficult to trust. This may simply be as a result of the next point.

Independent Much

A lot of women will probably attack me here but the truth remains, as much as most men claim to have left the 7th century and want their women independent, the Adam(ic) genes that run through us won’t allow us let go completely. I’m sure a lot of guys will relate to this: you meet a girl who you know you like almost instantly. She has the looks, the carriage, the persona – everything you look out for in a woman. Problem is, you cannot even for the life of you imagine how to approach her. Not cause you don’t have skills with the ladies, not for fear of rejection, there’s just this barrier that almost makes her seem like that magnificent rolex you know you want, you know you can afford but for some reason, you just walk past it at the display window daily.

Looks/Presentation

Most of y’all will probably laugh this off (especially you, yes you) but hear me out. The issue is not with you having more heels than flats in your closet or you even preferring to rock heels ahead of flats but if you start seeing a guy and after a month he doesn’t see that relaxed, not-so-made-up part of you, SWS much? There’s something ‘unexplainably’ endearing about a woman who doesn’t mind letting go once in a while. When a woman finds it hard to do this, SWS can’t be so far away.

Victims

Most women that exhibit symptoms of SWS will never see themselves as victims. Even if they got played and a dude cheats on them with a whole town, they’ll find words and ways to make themselves believe he was the victim. She’ll tell you it happened cause she ‘let’ it happen. Maybe thats why they don’t have issues with undefined relationships cause it serves as a safety net.

Accidental Wingwoman

The average SWS woman is the ideal wingwoman to loads of guys. Why? Remember a lot of guys probably like her but don’t know how to even approach her? Often times, this eventually evolves into the wingwoman situation where they become good friends, homies, buddies who drink, eat and chill together but that’s where it stops. Most of these guys often grow so fond of her that they unconsciously begin to protect her from prospective partners like adopted brothers.

In conclusion, let me just state that a lot of women who exhibit these symptoms manage to get a man, or men as the case may be, the problem is that they just can’t seem to keep them.

So, there you go guys, do you think you have symptoms of SWS or you know someone who does? Or do you even agree with me that SWS exists, you know the drill, use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.

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Discussion

75 thoughts on “SWS: Single Woman Syndrome

  1. First!!! now lemme go back and read d post 😀

    Posted by Domina | May 16, 2011, 10:35 am
  2. The first? Yay! The thirst for the first place is greeeeat! :D. I’ll be back

    Posted by k.kara | May 16, 2011, 10:37 am
  3. Haaa! Domina! Why??? 😦

    Posted by k.kara | May 16, 2011, 10:38 am
  4. Re the “Independent Much” point, society thinks a woman cannot have it all, have a family and a career at the same time. Therefore, she has to choose or be judged unfairly because she thinks she can balance both. Society’s rules, not mine. But society thinks differently when it comes to men, who can have it all, have a family and a career and doesn’t have to make the choice or be judged because of balancing.

    Posted by UncleJevi | May 16, 2011, 10:40 am
  5. Looking at that list, over 80% of the women I know who have those characteristics are married. To be fair, a third of them had shotgun weddings. another third have had shotgun divorces and that last third, their spouses meet their crazy pound for pound. Part of it is that a lot of men value these behaviors because it’s how their mothers showed them love. If a woman isn’t ‘insert the above list’ she doesn’t love him. Makes perfect sense.

    Posted by Solomon | May 16, 2011, 10:41 am
  6. Independent Much & Accidental Wingwomn = ME!! I can’t help coming off as independent and I too can feel the ‘invisible barrier’ when I meet guys, but I don’t know how to turn Ms Independent off! You may want to do a Part 2 on what women should do to avoid this, cause I can’t seem to break the cycle. *clasps hands in prayer*
    xxx

    Posted by Temiloluwa | May 16, 2011, 10:41 am
  7. I agree….I think the last one made sense to me

    Posted by Son1aO | May 16, 2011, 10:41 am
  8. ok….u peeps r turning dis blog to bellanaija where u fight for 1st position….shioor! lemme read again..i’l b back

    Posted by bukiola | May 16, 2011, 10:44 am
  9. So this post is based on d premise that the reason girls r single is cos no guy is bold enuff 2 ask dem out cos she’s a mini psycho wiv commitment or emotional issues or she’s too independent.

    Posted by yemmie | May 16, 2011, 10:47 am
  10. I agree… Their problem would be keeping him, not getting him… I have a friend who is sooooooo governed my emotions… They are in overdrive… She always ends up being the wingwoman…

    Posted by wing woman | May 16, 2011, 10:51 am
  11. A woman WAITS for a man to ASK her to be his wife.

    Emphasis on WAITs and ASK because if nobody does the asking she ain’t gonna marry herself, is she?

    But first she must make herself present and be presentable to be asked,yes?

    Most girls upon graduation/and getting a job(or a life after uni) begin what I like to call a ‘Triangle Life’—> House-Office-Church. Throw in an occasional wedding/birthday party and the weekly visit to the saloon.

    On weekends and holidays, most girls seat at home watching TV all day while still wearing their nighties…….like seriously?

    A girl without a social life isn’t going to get anything good cos there are hot chicks out there and no good man (a commodity already in high demand) is going to beat his way to your house and ask you out while you look unkempt in your nighty at 1pm on a Saturday afternoon.

    And I am by no way saying this is THE reason women are single, I am just saying that if you aren’t OUT THERE,you are not in the competition (yes it is, irrespective of what you think) and the more people you have in your social life the faster you are likely to meet Mr Compatible (Mr Right didn’t make Noah’s ark) and also be able to distinguish between a good man and a bad one (to help you walk away from a stale relationship)

    Posted by lagoshunter | May 16, 2011, 10:51 am
  12. By the way, most girls don’t know when to grow up and leave the “I’m young and hawt” behavior behind and start learning to recognize a potentially good/serious relationship when it stares them in the face.

    Nuff said.

    Posted by lagoshunter | May 16, 2011, 10:54 am
  13. I can relate to a few of the points u made. Cos I’ve been there. I have fled from guys who came on too strong too early into the arms of guys who I’ll have to ‘work’ hard to get to like me. When they do (they always do) I flee… Again. I flee with no forwarding address. One of the reasons I gave for ‘running’ was cos he was too mushy and always asked why I didn’t pick d fone after 2 rings. I was always too scared to commit, too have anyone question me, or didn’t wana take the time to know them den have sumn happen. Sumn like a breakup. So I figured I’d rather not give that time and commitment and be safe. It was so bad I had a problem saying “he’s my boyfriend” or “I’m in a relationship”. Funny thing tho is I love relationships and being with one special person but was just too lazy, scared, comfortable with my freedom and independence to do anything bou it.. Then

    I’m very self-analytical and my own worst critic so I realised what was goin on and resolved to change. I’m matured now and erm in a relationship. Its not easier but I’m willing and ready to face my fears and make this work. :).

    Nice post. Astute and very relevant. As always. 😉

    Posted by k.kara | May 16, 2011, 10:57 am
  14. @toolsman, I disagree with the “Accidental Wingwoman” part. Guys who don’t have the balls to ask woman out definitely have no business dating or marrying her it is that simple. And as long as she is dumb enough to be around such guys, she will block her opportunities to meet the real guys who can actually ask her out.

    I know this because wifey had a lot of guys who hung around her when we met, as soon as they realized we had something serious going on, they all disappeared into thin air. Not every guy is worth a girl’s attention. Guys need to know their level and act accordingly.

    Posted by lagoshunter | May 16, 2011, 11:02 am
  15. i think i relate wt 2 of the points listed..independent much and the wingwoman, but is it wrong for m to have my small cash n b able to spend it on ‘m’ wtout waiting for any man to foot my bills? is it wrong for m to b a guys best buddy?its complicated mehn!

    Posted by bukiola | May 16, 2011, 11:02 am
  16. *sigh* I have no words..! 😐

    Posted by Adahna | May 16, 2011, 11:03 am
  17. Just to be clear, does the SWS encompass all of these characteristics or does having a few of them come off as the same?

    Posted by Spiffy | May 16, 2011, 11:12 am
  18. I can relate with the Independent much scenario… That’s all I’ll say. 🙂

    Posted by Delphine | May 16, 2011, 11:17 am
  19. Well..I’m actually one of those women that stayed single for a long time.not because I didn’t get proposals, but because I turned them down.
    Never was one of those that believed in high school dating, so I told myselff I was gonna start dating till 18. 18 came nd I started “dating”. It ended after one year, I decided to find myself. Didn’t date for 3 years after.
    People thot I was independent blabla.but it was just bcuz I. Never found wht I was looking for I’m 21 nw.found HIM nd loving it.
    My ppoint here is that sometimes its not about SWS.cuz I definitelyy can’t remeba exhibitting any of the traits above..
    its just a strrong mature womaan knowing what she wants and going for it
    Nice post toolsman:)

    Posted by deinde fernandez | May 16, 2011, 11:29 am
  20. NOT QUITE!!!

    Posted by THE AMAKA | May 16, 2011, 11:29 am
  21. The accidental wingwoman point is sorta like an offshoot of some of the other symptoms. I totally agree with you that not knowing when to remove herself from the guys who’ve made a wingwoman out of her is totally her problem. However, a combination of some of these symptoms can make it so difficult. Most excessively independent women I’ve met hardly even know when a dude is making a pass at them talk more of knowing when to step aside far enough for them to be more approachable.

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 11:30 am
  22. iLike this Lagos Hunter person jo. You speak too much sense.. BRB

    I will comment fully coz I don’t agree with some things here

    Posted by H.A.W | May 16, 2011, 11:35 am
  23. Wow.. interesting summary of this post but I’m just as curious as you are. I only chose to highlight the points above so we could have a foundation for this conversation or probably cause they’re quite popular. Some of them may apply to some or not at all…

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 11:42 am
  24. the point about women waiting for men to ask them to be in relationships with them/be their wives is true but sad as far as I’m concerned. I belong to the school of seeing what you want and going for it irrespective of gender.
    I’ve met women who exhibit symptoms of SWS who have at one time or the other made first moves on guys but with trust issues etc things just never work out…

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 11:50 am
  25. Not saying it’s wrong to spend on you or having male best buds. Like Mr Hunter said, knowing when to draw the line is key…

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 11:52 am
  26. woah! you just described my life, 😦 *now tearing the stupid nightie and pulling out my LBD from the bottom of my box*

    I mustu groove utunu, oya lezgooo!!!

    Posted by chinnydiva | May 16, 2011, 11:55 am
  27. The independent part is an issue I hope women would understand. Nobody is saying you shldnt be independent, but the way life is (yes even unconformists have some natural rules they have to conform to) independency might not just work out for most African women because our Men like to take centre stage and seem like the one in charge..so u might truly be independent but for the sake of some things, u wldnt come off as independent because to most men, independent=controlling and arrogant.

    Posted by jadesola | May 16, 2011, 11:58 am
  28. about the “wingwoman” part. lemme put it this way, i am a guy’s girl.. i have 2 guys who see me as their wing woman. but i’m not single tho…
    i hang out with guys a lot and my best friend is actually a guy.. and i can imagine a single woman being stuck in such a role for a long time… acting as pal/ wing woman.. but then i dont think it stops her from getting into a relationship. funny enough i tink keeping guys as close friends actually helps me understand the male psyche more and contributes in helping me keep my relationship going.. and they have my back at all times.

    the flip side to it is that bf didnt like the idea of me being so close to these guys and it took him a long time to come to terms with it and accept it… but then he had no choice but to accept them, afterall they were in life long before i met him..

    Posted by Domina | May 16, 2011, 12:07 pm
  29. *Independence* x_x. in

    Posted by jadesola | May 16, 2011, 12:07 pm
  30. K.Kara’s comment resonated. I run..Flee.. So, I have OCD, eh? Is there a cure?
    I want to be cured…!

    Posted by Betty | May 16, 2011, 12:08 pm
  31. I don’t agree with this post on different levels, but I have cramps and I really am too lazy to type.

    Posted by chinnydiva | May 16, 2011, 12:17 pm
  32. I tend to flee from guys who come on very strong after the first few meetings. Sorry, but I distrust guys who claim love or connections after two to three meetings where I haven’t even said much about myself.

    Posted by beeawo | May 16, 2011, 12:35 pm
  33. I think it’s basically about nt over doing it… I bliv δ sws does exist, n from my point of view, δ SWS is born wen δ above listed points are in excess…. Be emotional, just nt over δ limit! B independent,hell dt’s sexy, just nt ‘too’ independent! It’s ok to b scared’f hrt break, wanna luk gud, n hang wiv tons’f guys, just dnt take it over δ boarder…
    Like Lagoshunter n toolman said…..knwin wen to draw δ line’s δ key!
    Again, nyz work. Keep it up!

    Posted by Mzanonymous | May 16, 2011, 1:02 pm
  34. *reads post again* okay…

    I guess Lagos hunter hit the nail on the head real hard…

    I feel sleepy so ima check this again tonight..

    Posted by awizi | May 16, 2011, 1:16 pm
  35. Taking @lagoshunter’s advise,I Need to socialize more to graduate from SWS soon before my parents disown me!

    Posted by mabijo | May 16, 2011, 1:19 pm
  36. sleepy? you too? This is fast becoming an epidemic in this our wonderful organization…

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 1:22 pm
  37. so, ahem …
    i knw i’m suffering from the wingwoman syndrome, any suggestions on how 2 end dis 😦
    funny thing’s 1 of my colleagues jst told me he was seriously on my case but now I’m like “the jnr sister he never had”… so tired of being refered to as “the run away wife”
    help !!!!!!!

    Posted by foxy | May 16, 2011, 1:24 pm
  38. so, @ lagoshunter, sum of us really don’t v d energy 2 go out on weekends ! u can imagine leaving ur house every weekday 4 4:30 am and getting back @ 9pm (on good days) ok let’s say 8:30… and u know u have 2 take care of the jnr church dept on Sunday… won’t u rather just rest on Saturday and only come out if it’s absolutely necessary ??? 2 make it even worse, u still live with ur parents and they don’t allow u go out over night… pls tell me if u’ll still be able 2 go out on Saturday ?

    Posted by foxy | May 16, 2011, 1:32 pm
  39. Wingwoman= ME

    LagosHunter is too on point.

    Posted by WingGirl | May 16, 2011, 1:35 pm
  40. that’s how i can’t c any of the comments i v made so far :s

    Posted by foxy | May 16, 2011, 1:42 pm
  41. *ahem* *cough* @lagoshunter..ermm excuse me I did make noah’s ark 1.30pm sharp..oh wait or was that when moses did his water thing..nways the guy has said it all….just to add a bit..all these bullet points na just story..”most” naija girls have issues..yes @yemmie..not that we are not bold..we don’t have that time..boy/girl meet say what they have to say knw the p..probably kissed on the seconnd date or something…tHen u come 3days later and say he’s not trying hard enuf..like I mean?…Cos I said I’ll call on tues then called on thurs..hello I did have a life before I met you..secondly guys also like a little attention..call too or text or whatever check him up to…better believe there lots of miss right,miss left,and miss in the middle that made the ark oh..I hope I went oFf course somewhere its been a while I’ve caused a stir up in this bit*h!!…deuces!!!

    Posted by mr I'm out of this world | May 16, 2011, 1:59 pm
  42. Single by choice. I spent all of my teens dating. I dated for like 6-7 years straight. Just jumping from one relationship and after mylast one I decided to be single for a while because I hated feeling like I always needed to depend on someone.

    But yea the fear of being hurt thing is me but it never stops me from entering a relationship when I want

    Posted by vanity | May 16, 2011, 2:00 pm
  43. Chinnydiva just took the words right out of my mouth *now dusting my heels*…. I must to socialize utunu!

    Posted by Jennifer Abah | May 16, 2011, 2:05 pm
  44. I definately can relate to the Wingwoman. Hec I’m a wingwoman to most of my male friends. It surprises me when some of them tell they used to have a thing for me,cause I never noticed. Well I suffered the SWS for sometime but thanks to a certain best bud,who made sure I got out there, I’m in a relationship and I’m truly happy.

    Posted by Mz.T | May 16, 2011, 3:52 pm
  45. Clapp for yourself and continue clapping for yourself when you’re 38 and still single.

    I can’t help being sarcastic, but seriously did you just saying you’re too tired to put yourself out there?

    By the way, I didn’t suggest anything that had to do with overnight moves.

    Pick up a Cosmo for loads of ideas of social activities you can engage in to help you meet more people.

    Posted by lagoshunter | May 16, 2011, 4:00 pm
  46. 😦

    Posted by awizi | May 16, 2011, 4:19 pm
  47. Lagoshunter has had all the girls shook up.Buahahahaha…no excuses go out there and get a man! *dodges bullets*

    Posted by awizi | May 16, 2011, 4:22 pm
  48. Unless u r coming up wiv another post tomorrow bout SingleMenSyndrome den dis post is sexist. All d above symptoms of d so called SWS dont exist, d most independent woman in d world can get a boyfrnd so cn d craziest gal wiv d most fucked up trust issues. SINGLE STATUS is a matter of choice, it might be dt u av too high standards n waiting 4 d fictional mr perfect. For every symptom u put up dere, dat might b wat a certain guy wants, might nt b ur own personal taste bt dere r some guys like fucked up women or over controlling women cos dey love d drama. So instead of saying yeah d independent woman or d wing woman is so me, take ur mind back to d last guy dt tried to toast n u totally blanked cos he was too short or he was driving a golf.

    Posted by yemmie | May 16, 2011, 4:54 pm
  49. 🙂

    Posted by yemmie | May 16, 2011, 4:57 pm
  50. lol @ sexist… If these symptoms don’t exist then what are the women on this tread talking about? Ok, ok, iKid.. good comment but let me just point you to the concluding paragraph on my post where I said:

    “a lot of women who exhibit these symptoms manage to get a man, or men as the case may be, the problem is that they just can’t seem to keep them.”

    I’m surprised you think this post is sexist tho cause unlike women, a guy will only have issues with being single if he totally lacks companionship or sex. I don’t recall male friends coming up to me to ask “why it seems they can’t stay in relationships” but I can’t say the same about female friends. It will definitely be interesting to see you or anyone else for that matter come up with a post on Single Man Syndrome. I’ll be waiting to read that.

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 5:18 pm
  51. lol.. I fear your case might even be the advanced form *runs far away*

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 5:21 pm
  52. err.. you of all people can push pain aside to defend your position.. I shall be waiting …

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 16, 2011, 5:22 pm
  53. @lagoshunter for president! #gbam

    Posted by @deevagal | May 16, 2011, 6:17 pm
  54. People fascinate me, hence I can ‘flow’ with a dumb person. I’m ridiculously likeable if I can be bothered to make the effort and for sum reason evrydude I’ve ‘liked’ still wants me yet I find that I’m better at ‘undefined’ relationships than boyfrnd girlfrnd type things. I can proudly say I’ve got SWS but I also KNOW d prblm is NOT me.I don’t have trust issues tho.if anything, I over trust(eg I still dnt bliv any of my exes cheated on me). Ppl like me r special, cos we can make other ppl happy its even harder to find that ‘sumone’ unfortunately, I refuse to settle *shrugs*

    Posted by bimbo | May 16, 2011, 8:51 pm
  55. *Sigh….”Repeatedly run away from guys at d slightest hint of emotions” <—– dats me..I don't agree with all but being d wingwoman/ocd is so true @ least wv me. I'm actually comfortable wv being d wingwoman…a guy is interested in me but I encourage him to try his oda options….I v so many "brothers" now ready to break any guy dt tries BS wv me lol…
    Its all cool till its seems impossible to even try dating!g

    Posted by mee | May 16, 2011, 9:23 pm
  56. omds!!!
    Awesome piece…iThink i ve sws cos….
    My papa instilled too much self-ego in his daughters..guess he molded his dream girls in us…anyways i relate wit alota dese posts..luv ’em all..
    @lagoshunter -u d man!

    Posted by jemjem | May 16, 2011, 9:27 pm
  57. Wowzers. Ok dis comment wee be long. Ok so I got my hrt broken 6yrs ago n its bin downhill 4 me. I run away from guys I hv feelings 4 n date dose I can control my emotions with. I’m loud, funny and a typical guy’s besto buh now I’m single n hvnt found any 1 or lemme say d few I thot I cld date seemed to lyk oda pple. My self esteem has taken a couple of hits buh I’m hangin in dere. Now a few of my male frnds suddenly wanna DO me? Iono if its cos sumhow sumwhere d line disappeared (confused). I’ve kinda aCcepted bin single til I meet a guy dat gets me. Dis comment is all I feel within me. @lagoshunter I nid ur help sorta. Nice post tools.

    Posted by GG | May 16, 2011, 9:36 pm
  58. Need my help how?

    Posted by lagoshunter | May 17, 2011, 12:37 am
  59. @Lagoshunter made a lot of sense because ‘laziness’ to put yoursel out there makes the opportunity to meet new people very slim. I’m in an incredibly working relationship (dt I wnt take for granted), a lotta guy’s wingwoman and independent when the opportunity calls for it!! I still don’t sit at home in yestday’s undies and believe dt I’ve got it all. I still have to ‘flit’ about, be social so dt I can be an interesting conversationalist with both my (incredibly Hot) man and my (very cool) male friends!! Too many hot girls around for me to fall back and rot!

    Posted by vixenpixie | May 17, 2011, 2:00 am
  60. I actually agree with every thing u said. For the looks part though, i dnt no if i fully agree with that. So what if i like looking nice and put together, that shouldnt be a turn off right?? no guy wants a girl that cnt take care of herself. Yes i dnt have to put so much make-up all the time, but i must look nice o, lol.

    Posted by kitkat | May 17, 2011, 3:39 am
  61. @lagoshunter I need to fetch from ur well of knowledge. Lol. I’m tayad of bin d independent wing woman wit trust issues who seems to scare men off 😦

    Posted by GG | May 17, 2011, 4:14 am
  62. @mr im out of this world,since u mr perfect n u did make noahs ark,did u do dat solo…ur specie will b extinct d minute u r taken..& BTW r u taken???:o)

    Posted by jemjem | May 17, 2011, 6:50 am
  63. yeeeeessss!!!!

    Posted by j.o.a. | May 17, 2011, 9:04 am
  64. Find me on Twitter(@lagoshunter), follow me,send me a DM. Let’s hope I will actually be useful….

    Posted by lagoshunter | May 17, 2011, 9:07 am
  65. LOL.. ghen ghen

    Posted by H•A•W | May 17, 2011, 9:25 am
  66. This is ridiculous….U girls r being incredibly stupid. Yogi writes a few lines to get an interesting convo n u girls r deliberately labelling urselves to make xcuses for ur single status. Anyone that thinks they r single cos dey av SWS is incredibly stupid n dts prob y r u single (stupidity isnt an attractive quality).
    Its an interesting/funny post bt dats where it ends, SWS doesnt exist.

    Posted by JUDGEMENTAL CHICK | May 17, 2011, 10:42 am
  67. you r*

    Posted by JUDGEMENTAL CHICK | May 17, 2011, 10:43 am
  68. If I didn’t know who wrote this, I’d have probably felt the need to respond in defense of the girls who commented but you’re just a trouble maker who exhibits all the symptoms of SWS listed above..lol.. *guilty conscience much*

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 17, 2011, 10:54 am
  69. hahahaha u r nuts….. we’ll fight ooo. how can u say i exhibit all d symptoms. Im as sane as they come. Dont dull.

    Posted by JUDGEMENTAL CHICK | May 17, 2011, 11:54 am
  70. smh.. denial all over… I think it’s time to stage an intervention, I’m calling all your friends…

    Posted by thetoolsman | May 17, 2011, 11:58 am
  71. Diz is so me #nawcryin!

    Posted by ciara | May 18, 2011, 1:51 pm
  72. I NID HELP!!!

    Posted by ciara | May 18, 2011, 1:56 pm
  73. Ok tula, u just described me in dis post….but I’ve alwayz bin like dis na….ok, maybe dats y I’m still single…*sigh* well said….ill try n change

    Posted by amma16 | May 18, 2011, 5:50 pm
  74. I totally agree with the looks and independence part…. Plus u didn’t include attitide!!!!!!! Aaaah. Very very important something..there’s dis lady in my church, she d head of a dept,she’s d head of a cell group and also in anoda dept, she works in a bank,goes to work very early and comes back late..attends midweek service and sunday service,not forgetting impromptu workers meetings and d compulsory weekly ones…also special church events(which usually falls on weekends).and she’s 29,30 or so..serzly praying for a broda..how’s she suppzd to get one??? theres just this -ve aura around girls dese days dat oozes ”hey,am a diva or. I dnt av tym for shit’ (including the danfo entering ones)..I mean every girl seems so unapproachable these days–lets cut the guys some slack pls!!

    Posted by kankey | June 18, 2011, 12:16 am
  75. .

    Posted by kankey | June 18, 2011, 12:17 am

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