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What men DONT want.

Hey people. Start of another week and despite my ridiculously short weekend, I’ve decided to remain positive. So I was going through so of my old posts and I realized I had done two quite similar posts in the past. One on ‘what women want‘ and another on ‘what a girl needs‘. I began to wonder why I hadn’t done a similar post on men and the first answer that came to mind was maybe because there’s this general assumption as regards what men want from the opposite sex. Ask most women and even some men and their answers will probably not vary much. The world has stereotyped the wants of men when it comes to the opposite sex to mostly physical. If that’s the case and the world knows what we want from women, so what then don’t we want?

Most of lastweek I spent my very little free time re-reading Malcolm Gladwells Outliers (excellent read for those who haven’t read it) and this book alwaysΒ  gets me wondering about the powers of statistics. Now some of the findings in the book are results of years and years of research carried out on thousands of people. As much as I would love to do that, I really don’t have the time.. well.. and the money. So I decided to take my chances with yet another no-so-survey. I rounded up three very vocal and opinionated young men from different backgrounds and I asked them one question:

What are the top five things that put you off a woman in their order of importance?

These were their answers:

5. Inability to hold an intelligent conversation: I like to talk a lot, about anything and everything. So its important that she’s able to match that. I’m not asking for a know-it-all (Olorunmaje), I just want a girl who knows how to express herself when she’s got an opinion or shut up, listen & occasionally chip in when she doesn’t.
4. Sense of style (Fashion-wise): I’m not asking for a Gucci, Louis, Prada Hoochie. No sir, clothes (handbags & shoes) don’t make the lady.. I believe the key factor here isn’t the tag but the lady wearing them.
3. Sense of humour: If you can watch a whole episode of Seinfeld & your lips don’t even curve even a wee little bit then you’ve lost me. I’m sorry but Basketmouth don’t count. You’ve lost me.
2. Sexual Orientation: I’m not asking if you’re gay or straight. I want to know what your opinion on sex is and honestly I’d like to know what your sexual appetite is like. Not asking if you’re ‘gonna bang’ either.
1. Clingy Babes: You’re bored and I’m busy at the office but you think I should chat with you via BBM all day??? #Jonzing.

5. Speech: major turn off if she cannot speak properly. I’m talking eloquence, diction and use of vocabulary. Pronunciation also. Don’t want to be talking to a girl that pronounces “teeth” as “theet” or “throat” as “troth”.
4. Hygiene: body odor or mouth odor or both.
3. Appearance: I love stylish girls that know how to dress and know what outfit is best for their body and not wear the wrong stuff cause it’s in vogue. Makes them look out of place. Big tummy and no hips? Drop the high waisted skirt.
2. Overly dependent: Big NO!
1. And most importantly…. Feet. That’s what I use to judge. If you ain’t got good looking feet or well taken care of ones… it turns me off.

5. Emotionless: well, this only applies when things are serious… The inability to express feelings and/or desires physically or otherwise ticks me off!
4. No goal(s): if I discover you’re just a ‘anywhere belle face’ chic, all about eateries and shopping! No plans for life… I can’t
3. No humor: if she’s not spot on with my jokes, retorts or comments and I have to explain or I notice she’s not sharp enough to understand.
2. Artificialness (for lack of a better word): Any girl that can’t be comfy without the plastic things, fake lashes, nails..All Fake everything etc…nope!
1. Her voice: I enjoy conversation, so if your voice ain’t worth hearing, I shut down.

PS: I didn’t mention beauty, this is because, for me, its the FIRST deal-breaker. If u haven’t got that, we can’t even get here!

Now, if you take a good look at the three responses, you’ll notice that some things stand out.

Sense of Style/Artificalness/Appearance –> Appearance
Clingy Babes/Overly Dependent/No goals –> Dependence
Sense of humour/No humour –> Humour

Now, I also asked some of my friends this same question and though I didn’t document their answers, I realized there was a pattern. The men of my generation were particular about their women’s appearance. They wanted them to exhibit some measure of independence and they wanted women who could not only relate with their sense of humour but also bring on the laughter from time to time.

I’m glad Kelvin added that last bit to his response because that’s assumed to be a constant. This discovery was however surprising to me and I could branch out from here into several theories but that would require more discussion and surveys. Until I can amass that much time and money, I’d have to rely on you guys. For the guys, I’d like your answer to the same question. If you agree with the guys I interviewed then simply express your opinion as per why you think the three things I highlighted really stood out. For the ladies, please don’t be left out, do you think the guys were being completely honest? Use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.

PS: If you missed the poll from yesterday, please check it here.

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186 thoughts on “What men DONT want.

  1. and then..

    Posted by StephanieIj | June 20, 2011, 9:01 am
  2. Wanted to be the first πŸ˜₯

    Posted by alahyor | June 20, 2011, 9:02 am
  3. I aim for second today..dare to be different yo!

    Posted by kechilauren | June 20, 2011, 9:03 am
  4. Bronze medal!

    Posted by je_mc2 | June 20, 2011, 9:04 am
  5. I totally go with Demilade though, ugly feet??? NEXT!!!

    Posted by tolz | June 20, 2011, 9:07 am
  6. I still can’t be first on days like this??? Warris wrong with u ppl??? Is there some prize that gets sent to ppl who comment first? Is this like bread from ‘Underground’, does the post taste better when its hot?? Ehn???

    *going back to read post*

    Posted by freshprinz | June 20, 2011, 9:09 am
  7. Glad to see you had two #TeamSawaleh brethren there…I agree with all of them…may not agree 100% with FPV on the humour bit tho…Basketmouth is funny to me o…
    I agree 100% with Demilade…your spoken word matters a lot to me mehn…cos like FPV n KWAL I love a good conversation.
    And like KWAL said…the beauty is what’s gonna bring me to u in the first place…so that’s a given.

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 9:12 am
  8. dosgbe…so u’v joined them abi…pschew…ayam disappointed in u…*shakes head slowly*…not that ayam subbing all of you that do it o…ehen…before som ppl try to remove my head

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 9:13 am
  9. seeen…………………

    Posted by Taiwo | June 20, 2011, 9:14 am
  10. If these guys were running for Governor.. Would totally vote @FreshPrinzVick

    Posted by alahyor | June 20, 2011, 9:15 am
  11. @freshprinz you are just burnt u didn’t get here first,take a chill pill.

    Posted by doynoyesanmi | June 20, 2011, 9:19 am
  12. I think the guys were on point…appearance matters a lot n a 21st century woman shd b able to hold an intelligent conversation, it shdnt jst b african magic and brazillian. from politics, to sport, science et’al….Nice one guys!

    Posted by bukiola | June 20, 2011, 9:20 am
  13. Feet! Feet!…. *sigh*. U noe u can tell ow clean a woman is by looking @ her feet?. Err what else? She has to be a lil like me. Weird is faaaaaaabulous. Tenz! *bows and scratches yansh*

    Posted by @hueyblack | June 20, 2011, 9:21 am
  14. There’s always a pattern with guys…..always!
    Rule 1 – Don’t keep it inside you, tell me! I’m not psychic ( a tad harsh but it helps to ease frustrations earlier)
    Rule 2 – 5 – A mix of everything stated above save for the sexual orientation part….I wont be turned off if you don’t know about sex, we can work on it….
    Still don’t get the feet part tho….I guess it’s different strokes then!
    Good one Tools….let the arguments begin!

    Posted by Kayshawy | June 20, 2011, 9:23 am
  15. I agree wiv errfin @freshprinzvic said cus I also want de same fin 4rm a man nd also kelvin’s last comment…beauty is in de eyes of debeholder,so,u avta pls de eyes 2 get 2 de hrt 4 me…I totally agree wiv em…

    Posted by naijabelle | June 20, 2011, 9:25 am
  16. U can be down to earth, fashionable, independent, good looking, witty and funny; and the guy would still be an ASSHOLE. I fink we shd also ask what the guys can handle, she offers to split the bill, u say she’s too independent; she holds a smart convo with ur friends, u say she ‘talks too much’, she dresses well, u say she’s too ‘materialistic’ (dts d one I hate!) Guys, what can you handle?!?

    Posted by miss e | June 20, 2011, 9:27 am
  17. oooOoops..

    Posted by StephanieIj | June 20, 2011, 9:30 am
  18. Interesting to see other guys with similar mindsets, really interesting! *subscribing to comments*
    Knowing this blog, I hope I don’t regret this!

    Posted by Kelvin | June 20, 2011, 9:31 am
  19. A man’s temperament, his intellectual awareness and psychological orientation has a lot to play in his preference of a specific stereotype of girls. For me, what I don’t want largely depends on what I want the girl for, mere dating? one night stand? or nuptial vows? The qualities or deficits will definitely vary when the purpose or intent varies. A brainless blonde will spend ample time in my bed but can’t make it to the Altar.

    Posted by Farroukh | June 20, 2011, 9:32 am
  20. Ebehi,you need to first understand that an asshole will always be an asshole even if you do possess the qualities mentioned here. The trick is to know how to spot an asshole/douchebag/jerk from a mile away.

    Posted by lance | June 20, 2011, 9:36 am
  21. I’m just glad I didn’t see “nagging”….over-flogged.

    What of girls that exude confidence, aren’t paranoid or insecure…?

    “Her voice”.. what’s that one? *hiss*

    Posted by StephanieIj | June 20, 2011, 9:36 am
  22. Girls misinterpret style. Being stylish doesn’t mean being trendy. If a girl can look good in natural hair, or not too much make up that she looks like a clown…then that gets major points.
    Independent woman = turn on. Nuff said
    Humour is vital. If you can’t tell the jokes then you should at least understand the jokes.

    Posted by KD | June 20, 2011, 9:38 am
  23. Yea I’d go with the guys on this one but on my own level she should be a rock fan, some days get boring and all u wanna do is turn up the volume n pretend like I’m Bono performing in front of a live audience in Asia! I don’t want her saying stuff like I have a headache or roll her eyes while I make a fool of myself she should join me n sing along πŸ˜€ *robs nose like a crack head*

    Posted by oye | June 20, 2011, 9:40 am
  24. Ah! I see… So, now its how to spot an asshole… (Y)

    Posted by miss e | June 20, 2011, 9:42 am
  25. OK now we hv heard!
    Men wash ur boxers too, we hate dirty boxers!

    Posted by hello | June 20, 2011, 9:44 am
  26. God Bless You!!!!

    I’d ALWAYS taught that women knowing these things was a no-brainer but I’ve come to realise that most girls don’t know NADA!

    I pay attention to details and I know must guys do.

    Please Read this post well, in short BOOKMARK it….and maybe you’ll stop wondering why u can’t bag a man.


    P.S: when it comes to looks keep everything SUBTLE, MODRATE and CLASSY!!!

    Posted by @FoluShaw | June 20, 2011, 9:45 am
  27. Sense of humour and Intelligence in a lady are major turn-ons for me.If I can’t hold a witty/intellectual conversation with her..Forget it!On a lighter note,I have a thing for girls in high heels though x_x

    Posted by DiOxide | June 20, 2011, 9:46 am
  28. 1. Most significant turn off – Closed minded/myopic/etc.
    Being a very adventurous and liberal person, any lady on the other end of the spectrum is a complete turn off. No matter how hawt she is. No need being with someone who is jiving at my wave length and judging me 90% of the time

    2. Selfish/Self centered/”I’m hawt so the world deserves to worship at my feet,bla bla” attitudes
    In two words, “Fuck You”
    Life as I see it, is far more interesting than your barbie girl act.

    3. Dumb Blonde
    Some girls deliberately act blonde because they think it’s cool.
    The dumb girl act is just……….DUMB

    4. Sexuality
    If you aren’t sexually aware of yourself and comfortable with your own body, you’re simply a waste of my time.

    5. Appearance
    Pay attention to details and don’t look like tacky or trampish.
    It doesn’t matter the cost of your handbag,or Brazilian weave.
    A girl’s finger nails don’t lie. One look and I can tell her entire hygiene story…

    Posted by Lagos Hunter | June 20, 2011, 9:53 am
  29. Lagos hunter u de vex o. Who is she na? The bush meat got away? Lol

    Posted by @hueyblack | June 20, 2011, 9:59 am
  30. Yup.. Im also with him…

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 20, 2011, 10:03 am
  31. Lol @ ‘artificialness’ I had heard a long time ago about the ‘feet’ issue…interesting to know it still stands……all in all the lists are pretty sensible and I don’t think they’re asking for too much…..@ the toolsman I’m thinking your next survey should sample opinions from,(at the risk of sounding snobbish) a different class of guys. It’d be interesting to create a more general list of what y’all don’t want. Really fun read. πŸ™‚

    Posted by jAyajade | June 20, 2011, 10:06 am
  32. LMAO!!!
    Uncle Lagos hunter, You are angry

    Posted by Hβ€’Aβ€’W | June 20, 2011, 10:08 am
  33. Funny enough, the less pretentious bush meat is usually the one with the most pleasant surprises.
    Sometimes, a girl may come across as razz until the right guy begins to pay her attention. Re: Pretty Woman -the movie

    Posted by Lagos Hunter | June 20, 2011, 10:10 am
  34. It’s amazing to me how Kalvin has set himself as an SI unit for humor. Anyway sha *taking notes*

    Posted by cecenostockings | June 20, 2011, 10:12 am
  35. Erm *thought, *moderate.
    *cough* thanks! πŸ˜€

    Posted by jAyajade | June 20, 2011, 10:16 am
  36. Uncle Lagoshunter has spoken my mind.

    Posted by ruud_bishop | June 20, 2011, 10:16 am
  37. (Y) πŸ˜€

    Posted by Glory | June 20, 2011, 10:19 am
  38. @demiladeR is a foot fetish.. Lol…

    Posted by Il cicero | June 20, 2011, 10:20 am
  39. I co sign this. Men are veery quick to say what they want d prblm though is most times they CANNOT handle it! I have countless examples. One bf said I was too arrogant, I chilled and started talkn to evryone, d story bcame ur too friendly. Another, it was independence. I’m too together! I start ‘sharing’ it bcomes’dnt u think me too I have stuff worryn me’. U dress up too much, u dnt make an effort anymore. As in story toooo plenty! I bet if any of the guys here actually got women with these qualities they wldnt be able to HACK it!

    Posted by bimbo | June 20, 2011, 10:20 am
  40. For me I guess my top 5 wants would be:

    1. Intelligence – she needs to be smart, else she will be eclipsed and feel insecure. (Its happened). Also, intelligence (real) usually comes with humor so yes. Humor is needed.

    2. insanity – the good kind, the kind that comes from being spontaneous and open to try new things: from heavy metal concerts to chilean food to sex positions…all join

    3. Independence and sense of self – I don’t want a burden to carry, I want a partner whom I can magnify and will magnify me. Someone willing to challenge me if I’m wrong not a yes-woman

    4. Boobies!

    5. Knowing what to wear and when to wear it is all I have on this. Designer shit is overrated. As long as u dress right for the occasion, and don’t look cheap and tacky, the rest na formatting.

    Yes these are ideals, I realize no one fits perfectly but a 70% match or better is workable πŸ™‚

    Posted by ThinkTank | June 20, 2011, 10:23 am
  41. *rolling* ‘less pretentious bush meat’ lol

    Posted by jAyajade | June 20, 2011, 10:23 am
  42. I kinda agree wiv miss E.
    Guys say they want all these
    things, but when you finally meet a babe that has all the things listed,
    there’s wahala. I think the real question is what can you as an individual handle?
    Some guys here are presently with babes that have ugly feet, but because some1 else said No 2 ugly feet they’ll jump and say ugly feet too.
    Different individuals to different things. Some guys don’t care bout feet buh do bout sense of humor or independence.
    Jus be sure u can handle what you are asking for!!!!

    Posted by @Ms_stephydiva | June 20, 2011, 10:24 am
  43. I love reading your comments. They’re always so brutally honest.

    Posted by cecenostockings | June 20, 2011, 10:24 am
  44. Lmao @ lagos hunter’s comment…a dumb blonde is just wat u say it is *DUMB*…buh wait a minute,dre re no blonde’s in naija neida barbie’s…just wannabees

    Posted by naijabelle | June 20, 2011, 10:34 am
  45. love the ‘Brutally honest’

    Posted by Hβ€’Aβ€’W | June 20, 2011, 10:35 am
  46. And here I was thinking I was alone in the world. Shoes too- they show you if she’s got class.

    Posted by Laoye | June 20, 2011, 10:36 am
  47. Hahaaha-ing at the beauty side-note in Kelvin’s list…ashana like you. In your mind now you’re feeling like someone that knows good things…

    FPV! Idk why you like feeling like one yeye janded someborri. Seinfield is funny, beht basketmouth is funnier. Oya use toothpaste for icecream.

    Lagos Hunter, I feel you man. Closeminded people drive me insane. How can you sit there with such a rigid mindset??? Let your imagination go! Come let’s crash that gay orgy party in amazonian costumes juh! Be there moping like a fish out of water. Kudos jare.

    Tula, get more money and make a bigger survey. Three men barely counts. :p

    Posted by Slim | June 20, 2011, 10:41 am
  48. See as all the guys keep saying ‘intelligent’ like they are all Intelligent. I have had conversations with guys that are equally just dumb, and the fact that they have no knowledge of what I am talking about makes them feel silly or complex sets in that oh.. that gal is just a smarty pant and it annoys them if u have a more sensible convo with their friend (in the case of a group convo)

    When a girl is too intelligent, some guys complain. At the end of the day, its really different strokes for different folks. I personally believe you attract the personality or traits that you have. I defo agree that there are some really dumb babes and its incredible and shocking though. But anyways, this is just a segment of some guys’ ideas and proli takes about 50-80% of what other general guys think.

    Guys just like to change mouth abeg. LOL… At the end of the day, every one has their own independent and very ‘individual’ likes and dislikes jo.

    Posted by Hβ€’Aβ€’W | June 20, 2011, 10:42 am
  49. Nice post, I agree wif the guyz tho…. A lady should be independent, everyone is carrying baggage, as it is, dumping urs on someone else, err… Is not the way forward!!
    Humour, is good…. Laughter makes the world bearable, smart is also good, u dnt wanna be an airhead, plus it really helps to catch on witty remarks.
    Appearance, very important, if u dnt like the package, liking what’s inside is gonna give u a run for ya money.
    Nice job, tools….

    @oye!! Being a rocker is quickly becoming an identity, u can’t see someone who likes rock and walk on by, ce n’est pas possible…

    Dnt be reckless wif oda people’s feelings and dnt put wif anyone thas reckless with urs…

    Posted by zoey | June 20, 2011, 10:44 am
  50. Ohh these comments….I fnk ll stick to reading comments now esp on ds particular blog….

    Commenting almost cost me my life…

    *scrolling back up to other comments*

    Posted by ibetapassmynebo | June 20, 2011, 10:48 am
  51. I can’t help but agree with every guy’s opinion. I’m guna add one more issue I hold paramount: intentions. I hate any for of pretense. Honesty about what a girl wants from herself and from me is the best.

    Posted by papyrusczar | June 20, 2011, 10:51 am
  52. I will post 4,3,2, and 1 later

    5 Appearance:
    a) There is a magical substance called WAX
    I don’t want no yam tuber looking legs, no carpet/lawn/jungle bush, no Mr T looking chin

    WAX on…WAX off *that should be ur motto in LIFE

    b)Weaves….look, I know my black sisters don’t wanna go all naturalΓ©. Yall want dem long dark flowing hair like an amazon goddess. Good for u. I support only Peruvian and Venezuelan weaves (on for 3weeks MAX). Don’t be stinking up the place with them ghanian weaves or brazilian lace weaves

    c) Granny Panties: oooo so ur period hasn’t come yet and u just felt like wearing them eehhhh. U are selfish #deadbabe

    Posted by ShoWade | June 20, 2011, 10:54 am
  53. I think guys just want a girl that’s as smart as or slightly less intelligent than they are. Most guys, anyway.

    Posted by cecenostockings | June 20, 2011, 10:57 am
  54. Thank God am sticking to comments today….

    CHOIIIIIIII ——->> @THINKTANK has the best comment….for me!!!!

    GB to the effing AM!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Posted by ibetapassmynebo | June 20, 2011, 10:57 am
  55. so so true…

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 11:05 am
  56. i was waiting for this…i knew @lagoshunter ‘l kill it….big ups to my mentor to be πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

    Posted by bukiola | June 20, 2011, 11:07 am
  57. For all those talking about how ‘men don’t know what they want and men can’t handle you even if you had all the qualities they say they want’:

    First of all, I know there’re a lot of assholes that would still complain no matter what you did, screw them, that’s not what we’re here for. This post is about what MEN don’t want.

    Secondly, different people have different preferences. My girl has a banging body but not so pretty feet. Do I care?? Nope. I love her just the way she is. Besides, I’m not exactly Morris Chestnut so who am I to complain.

    ThinkTank & LagosHunter were both spot on in their comments. Especially on intelligence & spontaneity.

    @slim: I like seinfeld, I like ‘smart’ humour. That’s all I was saying. πŸ˜›

    Lastly, in response to the ‘they can’t handle us’ chants I’d like to ask a few questions. Who u be sef??? Are u in any way better than Beyonce?? Kmt *sips cold zobo imperial*

    Posted by freshprinz | June 20, 2011, 11:11 am
  58. hahhann ….But kevin is funny naa…. Lmao @ SI unit for humor

    Posted by bukiola | June 20, 2011, 11:18 am
  59. @cece… I’m sorry, that was an error, me I am humble *yess* I don’t consider me SI unit of anything apart from charm and elegance like I said in my last post…lol
    My point was in regard to general jokes and/or humor…

    @Slim…well I never said I know good ‘things’..but I’m defo sure they recognise me though! So bleh… :p

    Posted by Kelvin | June 20, 2011, 11:26 am
  60. If only men would take their own advice…and that’s all i am contributing to this!!

    Posted by kiah | June 20, 2011, 11:30 am
  61. I have to say this comment is foolish and unrealistic! U want only peruvian weaves?? Like u can afford to buy one

    Posted by jadesola | June 20, 2011, 11:32 am
  62. Can we get a “What women don’t want” blog post too? Yeah yeah….u can give the men a “what every man needs” post too….*Rme*
    I don’t think they are asking for too much, though I feel like they weren’t specific enough in terms of looks……face , hair, body type etc…..I’m always curious about that….everyone wants diff things….

    Posted by Gbemi | June 20, 2011, 11:32 am
  63. lol… first of…i’m a first timer *rings bell like radio station* ….now about the your post

    After reading this post I had to go to the previous ones to see where you were coming from and going to with this. This topic of knowing what men want and do not want has been going on for years and quite honestly I am personally tired of the different theories and doctrines concerning what the opposite sexes want from each other….read more at http://www.sheilaspeaks.com πŸ™‚

    Posted by S.Charles | June 20, 2011, 11:35 am
  64. Thank you Miss E! cos i was gonna say this very thing and yes!its from experience. Honestly speaking,i dont think there’s any hard and fast guideline to what men or women want.

    Posted by georgeenah | June 20, 2011, 11:37 am
  65. *clinks glasses with him*

    I can overlook the feet part…so long as everything else is werking…hehehehehehe *sips the shilled Zobo Imperial*

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 11:40 am
  66. LOL!I was waiting for ur take on this cos you’ll def have one. Out of all the people who have participated in the poll and those who have commented up to here, no vex but i think LH takes the prize.

    Posted by georgeenah | June 20, 2011, 11:48 am
  67. LMAO! tools you go cause fight o!

    Posted by georgeenah | June 20, 2011, 11:55 am
  68. If I actually saw a bottle of Zobo Imperial I think I’d die of laughter…..

    Posted by jAyajade | June 20, 2011, 12:02 pm
  69. I agree. And you can already tell some characters of girls from their comments here. This here is about “what men want”. Those shouting for “what women don’t want” or “men can’t handle us” clearly don’t seem to be good listeners and always want to express themselves before hearing what someone else has to say. That too is a turn off!

    Posted by KD | June 20, 2011, 12:02 pm
  70. Wish i cud just cough, n slide this under d carpet. But no. D gibberish part of me started typing.
    Good post. Lovely comments, esp from ThinkTank.

    I can relate well with wat men dont want from a woman, to some certain point.

    Appearance: I personally cant gel wit a fellow girl if she aint stylish. It’s about good combinations to suit ur body, designers or not. Then, hygiene. Body n mouth odour, u may av it, but work on hiding it VERY WELL, cos i av dis nose dat speaks volumes wen my mouth doesnt. That said though, i cant stand a friend wit an odour. Wen i read d nails part by LagosHunter i think, i LOL. Keepin reasons to myself.

    Dependence: i’m tinking guys want a limit to dis sha. But i personally dont know. Wen u grew up around many independent women, u re so strong n can stand wit lil or no help from them dat it scares them. Learnt from experiences.
    If u re a yes-woman. I pity u. Na foot mat u go become.

    Humour: i always love to av a good laff. But note that same as beauty, humour lies in ears/eyes of the hearer/beholder. U cant come off dry to my hearing n expecting me to laff (well, unless @ u)

    That said, i wouldnt mind a post with what men REALLY want.

    Posted by Bubble G. | June 20, 2011, 12:03 pm
  71. ”A girl’s finger nails don’t lie. One look and I can tell her entire hygiene story…”- BS. Alotta girls know the game! i have friends who keep it hundred but are filthy twats. i bite the fuck outta my nails but my room is good as new, i wash and dryclean clothing weekly and i have a compartment for every single thing in my room so what are u on about Mr hunter?

    Posted by nono | June 20, 2011, 12:05 pm
  72. Seriously?

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 20, 2011, 12:08 pm
  73. People are vexing here…THINKTANK still has d best comment….ahaan from 1-5 !!!!! Kai!!! Guys u shud see dat comment!

    Posted by ibetapassmynebo | June 20, 2011, 12:13 pm
  74. hahahaha.. (noted)

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 20, 2011, 12:15 pm
  75. Hmm…I agree with freshprinz, there’s a difference between men,boys,jerk/assholes/idiots and we tend to judge men based on the experiences with the last 2 classes. once upon a time I got involved with someone who said he’d never get in a relationship with a girl who had certain attributes/qualities and he never did. Today,the girl he’s planning on settling with has/is all those things and more!

    Guys,before you start drawing up a list of ur wants and all,make sure you draw up a list with your qualities just beside it,so you know if u’re being an Oliver Twist.

    Also,I believe ladies should stop changing to suit every guy they meet cos at some point,YOU WILL BE UNRECOGNIZABLE! If he doesnt like everything you are,he should relocate to Antartica.

    Posted by Georgeenah Belucci | June 20, 2011, 12:15 pm
  76. TRUE.!

    Posted by Adahna | June 20, 2011, 12:16 pm
  77. ‘Less Pretentious Bushmeat’ – I want to eat πŸ™‚

    Posted by ThinkTank! | June 20, 2011, 12:21 pm
  78. Nope, I would be fascinated by a girl that was smarter than me, I would learn. Besides, I’m no pushover myself. Guys that want girls just slightly less intelligent than them have ego issues. Thats my opinion.

    Posted by ThinkTank! | June 20, 2011, 12:23 pm
  79. Thank you …

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 20, 2011, 12:24 pm
  80. πŸ™‚

    Posted by ThinkTank! | June 20, 2011, 12:25 pm
  81. Ermm… “I pay attention to details and I know must guys do”…. looks like you didn’t pay much attention while you were commenting on this one, bruv. See multiple Error. Oh, and “Floreat!” Hehehe *submerges head*

    Posted by 0latoxic | June 20, 2011, 12:26 pm
  82. At the end of the day, after y’all are done listing what you don’t want, y’all are still gonna bang the next available pussy. It’s a given.

    Posted by DOMINATRIX | June 20, 2011, 12:28 pm
  83. Howevver some people have learnt to apply the layers sooo well!

    Posted by Georgeenah Belucci | June 20, 2011, 12:28 pm
  84. Hello! That was so “below the belt”

    Posted by highlandblue | June 20, 2011, 12:32 pm

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 20, 2011, 12:33 pm
  86. @Jade Is there anything like Venezuelan weaves??? It was clearly a joke
    I see u are one of those babes with no sense of humour

    Posted by ShoWade | June 20, 2011, 12:33 pm
  87. Emmmmm. Think Tank are u sure there are girls more intelligent than you? Stop forming modest or I expose you right here! Ur handle alone says it all sef. Always thinking. Msctewwww!!

    Posted by highlandblue | June 20, 2011, 12:37 pm
  88. I see u are one of those babes with no sense of humour””<——so evn if that is true, it makes me less of a human being abi? Why not ask for a gold plated toto while u are at it!

    Posted by jadesola | June 20, 2011, 12:39 pm
  89. Funny how a lot of guys wud come here n say a lot of things n wen d show u like 10babes they av bin wiv hmmmm *na 2 crash be dat*

    Posted by @Ms_stephydiva | June 20, 2011, 12:41 pm
  90. @thetoolsman Abegg. If I want to open refreshment stand in your blog how much rent will I be paying?

    Posted by cecenostockings | June 20, 2011, 12:41 pm
  91. My girlfriend is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay smarter than I am,and I’m pretty smart. Her brain turns me ON #PornVeryMuchIntended.

    Posted by lance | June 20, 2011, 12:42 pm
  92. abi o!! thank u jare!

    Posted by Ekwe | June 20, 2011, 12:42 pm
  93. Before!! Banging is like renting a room. Life partner is like buying the house. Gats look weller!

    Posted by highlandblue | June 20, 2011, 12:42 pm
  94. Refreshment? Cece it should rather be medicine dispensing store. That would be more profitable.

    Posted by highlandblue | June 20, 2011, 12:43 pm
  95. Lance really?! It takes a smart person to know one. In fact you cannot accurately understand one’s intelligence unless u’re equally as intelligent. Lizard cannot follow rat to swim abeg. (Or were u talking about being smarter in bed? )

    Posted by highlandblue | June 20, 2011, 12:46 pm
  96. Guys like you are few and far between….

    Posted by jAyajade | June 20, 2011, 12:47 pm
  97. hehehee!! I distribute sprite, okin,hobnobs, zobo and other thngs..call me when u open ur stand!!

    Posted by jadesola | June 20, 2011, 12:52 pm
  98. Ok so this is my first comment ever eventho I read evry post…..that aside. The other day I hung out with this fellow whom I knew while in secondary school so I can say we re-united and den I realised he is literally the daftest fellow. He was sayin he wld have loved to wife me bt his friends wld misyarn seeing as he’s knw me since secondary school. He asked me y I dint fix brazillian hair and y did I do primary school braids(ghana weaving),y I dint use so much make up and red lipstick and finally, y I wasn’t carrying an LV bag. I was discombobulated,I’ve never heard such things in my life….so I asked him wat he wants in a girl and he said-a yellow girl with plenty make up,a girl dat isn’t a runz girl bt looks like a runz girl,a girl dat uses brazillian hair and all dat…tbh,dat guy is a dumb blonde bt that’s wat he wants in a girl like evry individual on here….diff strokes for diff folks to be honest….so,at d end of d day,dumb man-dumb girl, smart man-smart girl. Dats it

    Posted by MsIwobi | June 20, 2011, 12:55 pm
  99. hahahaha.. “discombobulated”… ahn ahn.. my little sister from another mother has grown… but interesting comment.. well said..

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 20, 2011, 1:01 pm
  100. Literally ROTFL!! A girl that looks like a runz girl but isn’t a runz girl!!!!! Shoot me!!

    Posted by jadesola | June 20, 2011, 1:03 pm
  101. LOL. Not a bad idea. Unfortunately, my license was revoked (long story). So, refreshments it is.

    Posted by cecenostockings | June 20, 2011, 1:04 pm
  102. LMFAO!!!!
    I’m in tears here! Pls comment on and on and on!!!
    I can’t comment sha! With the anger I see here, I will be used for suya and zobo!
    *waits for more comments*

    Posted by d3ola | June 20, 2011, 1:05 pm
  103. I totally agree with belucci (or so) Guys,before you start drawing up a list of ur wants and all,make sure you draw up a list with your qualities just beside it. But quite frankly ur fingernails tell a lot about u Imo. I am a girl but I also judge a lot of people based on their nails and shoes(female/male).you don’t need long nails or french tips and things.. Just keep them clean that is all..plus pleeasse this ‘dependence’ thing ehn I can’t! With a a lot of guys chatting ‘independent woman’ when they get threatened just by her even owning a car..ya’ll shld make up ur mind!

    Posted by isha | June 20, 2011, 1:06 pm
  104. 1st, its good to know guys do possess some brain outside their lower organ. 2nd, check urselves. No one is sayin u shdnt state ur preferences bt r u worth it? Appearance: r u denzel urself? Humour: u do knw dt ur jokes cn b dry sometimes ryt? Dependence: nw dis is a very crios issue. m nt sayin pay my bills bt most guys dnt take responsibility of anythn. U wnt 2 d8 d brazilian hair wearing, mac make up fresh lookin babe n it doesn’t cross ur mind that ull need 2 put in somfn? Men shld learn to stand up n b men or boys 4 mst of u. Ud b husbands some day! 3rd give dumb blondes a chance nw abeg

    Posted by some girl | June 20, 2011, 1:09 pm
  105. Isha can I help your confusion a bit? Dependence should be a choice, not a character trait. I mean, all humans were born with two legs and you should be able to walk on your own. But then, when you choose to lean on me, its for romance and not because you have only one emotional or financial “leg” and therefore you are leaning on me. We love when women who can be independent choose to be dependent because of love. Did I help? Xxx

    Posted by highlandblue | June 20, 2011, 1:10 pm
  106. Nice post!
    Lets all come back to reality;

    Its a FACT dat MOST Guys feel threatened by ”Intelligence and Independence” in a woman.
    Yes! An intelligent and independent woman is hella attractive but she becomes part of your life, most of yall see her as competition, especially if she’s more brilliant.. Its a FACT!

    Guys are the most indecisive species on earth.. Today; dey want dis type of girl, 2mrw dey want dis type of girl, next its this type of girl.

    U meet a girl and she’s fashinable, intelligent, independent, good character and a size 12. U guys start dating, nextthing u want her 2 drop 2size 6.. Are u 4real?? O_O
    ddnt u see d chubbiness b4 approaching wit her??

    ADAMs, Please be guided! And Approach what you can handle!!

    Posted by querylang | June 20, 2011, 1:10 pm
  107. Discombobulated tho??Oyinbo!!O ga ju!!

    Posted by miszliz | June 20, 2011, 1:11 pm
  108. the question here is……”What secondary skool did u go to????” cos that boi don “fall una hand”

    Posted by ShoWade | June 20, 2011, 1:13 pm
  109. Mehn, people should just try and remember that everyone has an opinion, no matter how “unsavory”. That said, people please try not to be offended.

    As for what guys don’t want, no guy is specifically the same. I’d say people have their particular likes and dislikes, fetishes and OCDs included. Just look for who suits you and hold on to that person.

    Posted by papyrusczar | June 20, 2011, 1:16 pm
  110. Nah, am not a fan of gold…besides it doesn’t taste nice πŸ˜‰ .

    Posted by ShoWade | June 20, 2011, 1:18 pm
  111. Just like d Bible says: if u want a friend u shld show urself friendly; I say if u want a Woman den be a Man. @ d end of d day if u want a beyonce or eva mendes puleasssssssse be a Ryan reynolds or Idris Elba wit jay Z’s income statement. Otherwise accept d sukurat or monica infront of u n Shurrup. *sips Zobo la Imperiel*

    Posted by Omalichanwa | June 20, 2011, 1:20 pm
  112. seennn

    Posted by pebbles | June 20, 2011, 1:21 pm
  113. (Forgive my typos tho)

    oh some love their women adventurous in bed, lol give em time, next thing u hear is ur slutty.. If ur normal in bed, u’ll be labelled boring…

    Oh the male species! Such Confused homo ”erectus” πŸ˜€

    i feel for any lady that will alter herself cos a guy said so.. What happens when his preferences change again? U alter urself again?? Ha! Identity crises go wire you!
    Ladies, be confident of you..
    Be d best u can be, if he cant handle it, make im go push plane!
    Its that simple..

    Posted by querylang | June 20, 2011, 1:21 pm
  114. I totally agree with u about not changing to suit men u date. I believe in a lil bit of compromise though like I will watch a football match not cos I love football but cos he wants my company for the game but he better be ready to watch Dr 90210 or clean house when I want his company too.

    Posted by S.Charles | June 20, 2011, 1:22 pm
  115. Hahaaaa. Pls who is dis omalichanwa babe? #YudeyVex#

    Posted by hanonimous | June 20, 2011, 1:31 pm
  116. Lmaooo @ looks like a runz girl but isnt a runz gal! Dats d dumbest shit eva nd d guy is a big fool!

    Posted by dee2qte | June 20, 2011, 1:47 pm
  117. LAST!!!\=D/ Err me I like a girl that wee be able to beat me and my friends(together)

    Posted by General Sanni Abacha | June 20, 2011, 1:48 pm
  118. @sawyerr & tula: why’s everyone sipping a supposedly private brand of zobo. Have u ppl been distributing it already?? Without my permission??

    Posted by freshprinz | June 20, 2011, 1:50 pm
  119. Lol. Readn d comments on this post has def made my day. Hehe. Ppl r not smiling.

    Posted by MzLucyM | June 20, 2011, 1:55 pm
  120. LOL!Abi????

    Posted by Georgeenah Belucci | June 20, 2011, 1:56 pm
  121. These comments r the cutest!*grabs popcorn and skittles* #okbye

    Posted by yummypurpleshoes | June 20, 2011, 1:59 pm
  122. LMAO!WTH???That guy sounds like he’s looking for someone he can use as a handbag to social events,nothing more.

    Posted by Georgeenah Belucci | June 20, 2011, 1:59 pm
  123. Ooo d d guy dt said he wnts a runz girl look alike as a gf. Hehe Mumu no 1!!

    Posted by MzLucyM | June 20, 2011, 1:59 pm
  124. Summary is: Be the best YOU can be! *swallows panadol n continues reading comments*

    Posted by Didi | June 20, 2011, 2:10 pm
  125. Some of u will have to go and create ur ideal girl yourselves because ur requirements/Spec are not available in nigeria.

    Posted by ruud_bishop | June 20, 2011, 2:19 pm
  126. Everybody has said his own. Abeg all i need is an ASHAWO.
    Blonde or brunette. Dumb or smart. I don’t care! As long as there is soft bobbie and nyansh…*emphasis on SOFT o!* Ehen.. I don’t want mannish things. And she must love me too. My definition of love is good sex and understanding. It’s not that complex…
    *Steals bottle of zobo imperial and runs into the market*

    Posted by SlevinCalevra | June 20, 2011, 2:20 pm
  127. Biggest mumu on earth and he went to Kings college….and I went to vf oh so darris all

    Posted by MsIwobi | June 20, 2011, 2:24 pm
  128. @slevincalevra *chases u with horsewhip* ole niyen, bring back that bottle!!!!

    Posted by freshprinz | June 20, 2011, 2:27 pm
  129. actually,the title of this post is what men dont want so,i guess you dont make much of a reader urself. πŸ™‚

    Posted by Georgeenah Belucci | June 20, 2011, 2:29 pm
  130. *presses nitro button*

    Posted by SlevinCalevra | June 20, 2011, 2:38 pm
  131. This was a good post.

    1. I wish people would realize that these are just 3 INDIVIDUAL guys stating their INDIVIDUAL preferences. When will people realize that people are entitled to their opinions and opinions are not facts? You can’t generalize and say guys don’t know what they want or they say they want this and that but when they get this and that they can’t handle it. Do you know every guy God has created? Every time a guy says females are complicated and don’t know what they want females start doing voltron so why are we doing the exact same thing to guys?

    2. Mehn you can’t use nails to judge a babe o. Babes dey scam these days. Babes are NOT smiling. They know what guys are looking for physically. And when they’re out there hunting? Best believe they leave their homes prepared. Like Nono said, some girls may not have the best kept nails but everything is on point.

    3. If you want an intelligent female? The best way to judge that is to have a conversation with her.

    I’d like to see a female version of this.

    Posted by Mz. T | June 20, 2011, 2:39 pm
  132. JISOX!!! See english sha!
    *sipping Zobo and chewing grandnut*

    Posted by d3ola | June 20, 2011, 2:47 pm
  133. This comments…LOL…Discombobulated..chei!…..
    “Human wants are insatiable”… apply the principles of “Choice” ,”Need” , “opportunity Cost”… and dont forget “Scarcity”
    …Do i need to add that i’m an economist? πŸ˜€
    *err..wey that Zobo imperial?*

    Posted by @jobzibond | June 20, 2011, 2:49 pm
  134. LMAO HIGH5
    your sense of humor is on point

    Posted by BBB | June 20, 2011, 2:53 pm
  135. And you’re absolutely sure you went to the same school? Lol idiot.

    Posted by jAyajade | June 20, 2011, 2:54 pm
  136. Buahahahahahahahahahahahaha…


    *sips zobojito!*

    Posted by ibetapassmynebo | June 20, 2011, 2:55 pm
  137. I dont remember giving you any licence to distribute Zobo…*checks his records* nope…your name is not on my register…*calls the enforcers*

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 3:00 pm
  138. um…is dis d same Omalichanwa from The Beat…jus curious…

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 3:09 pm
  139. I havnt o…God knows it’s Musa that started bootlegging this thing…on 360Nobs…now everybody thinks they can just be drinking it anyhow…n it isnt even Classic or Regular o…Imperial…a whole Imperial…I will have to take very drastic measures…

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 3:11 pm
  140. That’s what i meant…i was typing too quick. Abeg join the zobo drinkers jor :p

    Posted by KD | June 20, 2011, 3:11 pm
  141. Its what they don’t want that we’re discussing, actually…

    Posted by slimsiren | June 20, 2011, 3:24 pm
  142. This is it. Speaks my mind on sexuality and dumb blondes. Hahaha


    Posted by Oginnidipo | June 20, 2011, 3:25 pm
  143. Tula n Vick…I’ve thought about this before, but I didn’t really give it that much of a priority…but now it has become critically evident that if I don’t patent this Zobo all these bootleggers will beat me to it and steal my thunder…n if that should happen there will be a lot of red flowing in the streets…and it definitely won’t be Zobo. #nuffsaid *starts sharpening his katanas and daggers*

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 3:26 pm
  144. At the end of the day, only a few men will go strictly by their list. I can relate mostly with Kelvin’s list even tho I dont specifically have a list. Men are dogs and to me, I dont think we’re that picky when it comes to babes that just have d basic TFAP qualities. But then, this is just my opinion.

    If I were to make my own list of what I do not want, it’d start with d drama (I mean wahala) ALL ladies have. This is something I have no power to control or change and there’s nothing that can be done about it. However, it’s something I have grown to accept in women that if I by a miracle find a Lady without drama, I’ll start to suspect that she’s not being herself.

    And why are some ladies taking the list thing P tho? there are some things u dont want to na…abi? lol

    Posted by Radeyo | June 20, 2011, 3:33 pm
  145. Well..I actually agree with a couple of these.. A lady can’t av it all so like someone said,70% or more wud do.. But feet.. Well dunno.. D babe didn’t create herself and if she works on it.. Dat shit aint original.. Left to me.. Good sense of humour,fine looking,intelligent,stand her ground and a lil bit of spontaneity.. Dat makes it fun

    Posted by @boyombey | June 20, 2011, 3:49 pm
  146. Let us be ya marketers. We have shop in Aba, Onitsha, Ilupeju and Alaba. Overseas branches are in Kumasi and Gambia.
    London branch is coming soon. Don’t worry, we also have NAFDAC connect. Ya zobo will be registered sharp sharp!
    But is this y we are here?
    What kind of geh do u want joh! I know she must be a pro at preparing zobo sha…

    Posted by SlevinCalevra | June 20, 2011, 3:51 pm
  147. First of all, everyman want a pretty woman. Everyman also wants an intelligent woman with a healthy sense of humour.

    The problem is all dese wants are subjective. Like dey say (don’t know who “beauty is d eye of d beholder” so is intelligence and humour (d brain in dis case). A girl isn’t dumb if she doesn’t get my joke, she just doesn’t get me, and chances r she’ll come across as boring.

    More importantly d ladies are really taking over, not one dude mentioned d lack of culinary skills as a turn off (doesn’t matter anymore? or was it a given?). For me a woman β€Žβ€‹β€‹β€‹has to know her way around d kitchen or d relationship is ‘futureless’. I’m not asking for a chef, its jst d thot of you not bn able to make a decent meal ever………*shudders*

    PS: I’m not looking for an ugly, boring chef….if ur comment is smart-ass, save it.

    Posted by dbrizio | June 20, 2011, 4:07 pm
  148. daRn’ right! Miss. E ..
    wuh can u handle guys? itnk dts wuh we need to kno ..
    my feet r alwys nice btw πŸ™‚

    Posted by pippi longstocking | June 20, 2011, 4:22 pm
  149. …buh baby mayb u tell dry joKes!

    Posted by pippi longstocking | June 20, 2011, 4:31 pm
  150. looooool @ ‘i see u are one of those babes with no sense of humor’

    Posted by mzs_pam | June 20, 2011, 4:35 pm
  151. sorry, but am I the only one that has noticed the way most of the comments have subconciously changed the Post title to “What Men Want”?

    Posted by Radeyo | June 20, 2011, 4:36 pm
  152. Oga Zobo!! I say plix! We are on d same side!!

    Posted by jadesola | June 20, 2011, 5:42 pm
  153. I swear i’ve been having loads of fun reading all of this..the true characters have come out. God bless you Wale…I’m totally in agreement with this KD dude….

    Posted by awizii | June 20, 2011, 6:12 pm
  154. WOW… Too many things…
    Oh well, I’m your resident doctor, stop by for your panadol and lexotan… U have all fought a good fight! πŸ˜€

    Posted by @deevagal | June 20, 2011, 6:14 pm
  155. Folushaw’s a guy?? I could’ve sworn after that comment on To The Corner that he was female. Oh well.

    Posted by 'Dania | June 20, 2011, 6:15 pm
  156. What i’d like to know is why Uncle Tools had to get three other guys to do his dirty work? What about you Sir? What don’t you want?


    Posted by 'Dania | June 20, 2011, 6:22 pm
  157. They say women are never satisfied but in my experience it the reverse. Men are subtly demanding. Don’t wear this, don’t go there, don’t talk to this person and all of that. Especially if he’s got a gang of friends you are left trying to impress him when in actual fact he’s just trying to make you look good in front of people watching. Men want smart babes but they don’t necessarily go for them…they go for the hottest girl in the room…they just end up being lucky if she’s got sense to go with it. Then they talk about overtly dependent, they don’t want clingy babes and so on…and you wonder why she cheated on you. Sometimes all a girl needs is your undivided attention..nothing more. Some dudes are truly busy…while some claim busy but magically have the time to tweet all day. I can understand the fashion sense, humor and goals aspect but some of y’all will STILL complain! ‘You are too flashy, stop tryna be a clown when we r in public, you are too ambitious…u really need to chill tho…its not all about money’. So like one of the dudes said above..bad feet. So if she has all the features he’s looking for but bad feet..he wouldn’t do abi?…no he wouldn’t. But then if a babe should say she doesn’t want a guy that is short or without a job; she’s being materialistic and shallow respectively.
    Now to me what I think men don’t really want..or at least one of the things is the way she sees sex..as above mentioned. They don’t honestly want virgins. They don’t want a babe that has been around…and that(sex) is one of the only substantial things they will be bothered about…well except babes who try to run them dry. If she likes let her toes be ashy..by the time she wears her designer shoes they won’t notice a thing due to being ‘blinded by her fashion sense’; till they are head over heels in love. That being said..the list I can totally relate with is Freshprinzvik. That is all.

    Posted by funmi | June 20, 2011, 6:34 pm
  158. *Offs shirt* Damn..Finally made it to the end.

    I dont know…but I’m not that hard to please…Truth is all the qualities outlined are pretty much subjective so..there. At the end of the day we can all grow but I’ll still love the girl just the way she is…(*insert yimu here*)

    Anyhow personally I love a girl who dresses good, (neat and trendy…I don’t care too much about designer outfits…)..pretty enough..presentable! don’t need an Agbani in my life..know how to hold an intelligent conversation,be spontaneous…i’d love to learn from you..A girl comfortable in her own skin…independent (to a certain extent) and please, oh please…can you just love rock music like me?? Thanks. πŸ˜€

    Posted by awizii | June 20, 2011, 6:40 pm
  159. Why are you coming to pour sand in my garri? Warris the problem now?! Mscheeeeeeeeeeew

    Posted by cecenostockings | June 20, 2011, 6:52 pm
  160. HonesTly there aren’t babes that look like runz babes that aren’t runz babes. Simples! My ex cheated on me with one of those and all I could keep thinking about was what he had possibly contracted all in the name of shagging aunty cinderella. And the silly dude couldn’t tell that she was a runz babe. Shallow much.

    Posted by fifi | June 20, 2011, 6:58 pm
  161. Enough with the zobo drinking abeg, be activating unecessary cravings this evening.
    My 2 kobo: nothing wrong with knowing what you want,and expressing yourself too. However, yap all you will about what you do or do not want, you will attract the one that is your own. And I do not mean that in a ‘destinyish’ way, but basically you attract your type. Be there talkin about clean nails and feet with holes in your socks. Put your ‘house’ in order first.

    Posted by ie | June 20, 2011, 7:20 pm
  162. *sips last of my zobo loudly as I listen to all these liars*

    ‘I want a girl who is intelligent…bla bla bla’

    Like someone rightly stated, most of yall can’t handle an intelligent girl. Case in point..I went out with some twitter buddies and we (I) started conversing about the job situation in the country. After a while, I wasnt hearing the voice of the host and when I looked up, he was busy gnawing away at the chicken and chips before him. I continued the conversation with his friend and the host ( who unfortunately was the person that invited me) seemed to want the conversation to end so that he and I can have some ‘alone’ time…of course talking about ‘Us’..At the end of the evening, what I took from that was that he was intimidated by me.

    Secondly the liars who say they don’t like girls that are too ‘superficial’…Is it her natural hair that attracts you so much you take her for a ‘lift’ from VI to cele when your house is in ikoyi? Pls be shifting your mouth to one side as you’re saying these BS..

    Thank you tres much…As you all were

    Posted by no1chick | June 20, 2011, 7:47 pm
  163. My Lawd….see essay writing…toolsman you should have said in not more thhan 100 words…*adjusts specs and brings out red biro*

    Posted by no1chick | June 20, 2011, 8:12 pm
  164. Im sad im just reading dis. Airtel (n) Dania, r u interested in tools. I agree with Radeyo. how many guys actually follow their so called “list” of what they want, Miss E also said it all. they find a babe that has all those qualities and they still complain. IMO guys are greedy and confused. they end up with what they see at that moment, list or no list.

    Posted by msyewieo | June 20, 2011, 9:09 pm
  165. Well said.

    Posted by awizii | June 20, 2011, 9:22 pm
  166. #dead but for real o…some people’s reply are posts on their own…that’s why i carried my long reply to my own blog jejely

    Posted by S.Charles | June 20, 2011, 9:25 pm
  167. bwuahahahaha…dis got me in stitches…so much so that I wont ask you where you got that Zobo from.
    Now, speaking for myself…I’m not saying I don’t want a lady who looks hot…I’m saying I don’t want a lady who cannot live her life unless she’s got the latest in everything on her…as in head to toe. Be comfortable enough in your skin to for example decide to simply go au natural and not give a damn…cos you know u’r hot regardless. I must add though that “hotness” in dis case is relative. However, the cowl doesn’t make the monk my dear.
    And as for intelligence, God knows I love a good intellectual joust, and any lady that can’t give me that at even a minimal level isn’t wifey material…if she fine she no go pass eye candy for me. And if she no fine…well…
    *guards his new batch of shilled Zobo Mojito* if anybody other than my #TeamSawaleh brethren near me ehn…*pulls out his Katana n dagger*

    Posted by musingsofagidimallam | June 20, 2011, 9:27 pm
  168. What’s all this sudden frenzy about rock music? HIA! Just like Georgeenah said, DONT BE WHAT YOU DONT WANT. #ThatISAll.

    Posted by MEE | June 20, 2011, 9:45 pm
  169. Lmao @ yam tuber looking legs …..

    Posted by beeawo | June 20, 2011, 9:54 pm
  170. Thanks for the corrections.

    and yes I scrutinise women not what I write on blogs.

    Assumption they say is the mother of all fuck ups.

    Stay blessed.


    Posted by @FoluShaw | June 21, 2011, 4:02 am
  171. 171 comments. Wow. You guys are amazing. Ok, let me chip in my bit. For those who haven’t realized it, I love playing the role of the moderator. In the coming weeks, y’all will find out more.

    Forget the background I gave, I decided to write on this topic because I realized that in saying you don’t want something, you’re actually saying you want the opposite. I’m sure from the path the comments took, you would have noticed this.

    As nice as having a proper survey on this topic would be, I doubt that it would tell us something significantly different from what we’ve seen on this thread. Lets be honest, two things about human beings, we all COMPROMISE and we all subconsciously classify.

    All the women who came here and challenged the items on some of the lists equally have their own lists. From the materialist to the superficial. I’m a non-conformist. A realist who hates lists but I can’t help myself every time I meet a girl for the first time and I try to get a good look at her feet because that’s my person and that person is a sucker for detail. This does not mean I’ll send her to the trash bin immediately I notice she has corny feet. Why? Cause the next minute she might take me up on a debate on the trends in social media and floor my ass.

    I imagine we all have a mental weighing scale for everyone we meet and with every plus, the scale tips towards that point of compromise. Once you strike a balance, BOOM. The person becomes a prospect. This doesn’t mean the individual still won’t swear by his/her list.

    Like Nono said, a lot of people have learnt to mask things, yes, even the guys making the lists might be faking things but I believe no matter how much you try, your person will always come through eventually.

    In conclusion I’ll like to certify the comment by Omalichanwa..well, kind of. I love intelligent women but I make sure I’m not a pushover myself. Humour is relative but if you cant make me laugh, we need to be as intellectually close to each other as possible for you to be able to understand my sense of humour (funny or not). Looks are relative but 90210 aside, I know I can’t pretty much do anything about mine so I try to be fair in my wants in this area. However, like most things in life, there are no hard & fast rule to this (why else do we have many real life beauty and the beast tales).

    PS: I put up the post so I’m allowed to drop a comment this long πŸ™‚

    Posted by thetoolsman | June 21, 2011, 7:46 am
  172. …And its a wrap.

    Posted by mabijo | June 21, 2011, 9:14 am
  173. Ahhh u don late o. Musa don dey sell Zobo Rose’ o.

    Posted by bykerboi | June 21, 2011, 12:44 pm
  174. Hold up! At the risk of sounding like that guy who comes to give the ‘I knew them in university’ speech after the groom has given his vote of thanks, can I chip in one last word?
    Great post, had a good laugh reading the comments. Some of them made me wonder though, about what men and women really mean when they use certain words.
    This is just my opinion, but I’ve found that a lot of men, when they say they want an ‘independent woman’, really just mean ‘I don’t want to have to pay for yo s**t’, whereas when some women say independent woman, they are really saying ‘I will fix the kitchen sink, if I can, whether you or your friends are standing there or not’ or ‘I will speak my mind weda or not your mother is standing there’.I tink this is what leads to the divergence when these two concepts meet. There’s also the conflict that occurs when the modern ideas we are learning now clash with the more traditional ideas of what men and women’s roles are, that we were mostly directly or indirectly raised with, and how to combine these. Hope this makes sense.
    Ok, I’ll shut up now. Btw, first time reader and poster (yeah, where have I been, right?)

    Posted by ijeoma | June 21, 2011, 3:05 pm
  175. Yewande is it your aunty you’re talking to like that? All you children of nowadays *tsk tsk*

    Tools and i have an…arrangement.

    Posted by 'Dania | June 21, 2011, 3:06 pm
  176. I’d started typing a reply to this comment but it got really long and I’ve decided to turn it into a blog post instead. I’ll be sure to come back here and post the link tomorrow when it’s been put up…

    *exits stage right*

    Posted by 0latoxic | June 21, 2011, 5:46 pm
  177. Good point u made about independence. My thoughts exactly.

    Posted by MEE | June 22, 2011, 12:17 am
  178. Abeg add panadol to ur list, some ppl clearly need it.

    Posted by Ayeesha | June 22, 2011, 12:17 pm
  179. Hahahahahahaha!!!!!
    The fun I had reading the comments here is orgasmic!!
    With that said,there are really SOME funny (sense of humour) and intelligent comments here so those of you with that long list can start ticking and selecting pple from this site.

    P.S @Ijeoma I totally agree with u on the breakdown of your ‘independent woman’. When most of us say independent, we don’t expect u to ask us to lay the foundation for that house u plan to build in maitama so that u can do the roof…oga o! It means we can take care of some thgs in d house and stand up for ourselves….^_^!

    Posted by anitttta | June 22, 2011, 5:20 pm
  180. i see y’all and what you want and am cool with it. every man to his own but i have a question. what s your opinion on girls who swear? like using the words hoe,bitch,fuck e.t.c all the time/. Would you guys mind dating girls like that? i hope someone answers me

    Posted by mrs bond | June 23, 2011, 3:03 am
  181. After reading the comments, I felt the urge not to leave a comment but who knows,’somebody’ might just read this and get the message.

    *Independence: I don’t need to overflog this

    *brains: yeah! I don’t want a girl who can’t hold intelligent conversations outside the cost of shoes and bags.

    *Be real: please don’t abuse make up! How can a girl or lady spend thirty minutes on just make up? Then if rain falls… Please a little make up has not killed anybody not even you!

    *Make your priority: its either you want my time or you don’t want it. Don’t tell me, “start coming” and 20 minutes later you say, “please my friend just called need to console her”.

    *humor: You must have a good sense of humor! You can’t be. Frowning when everyone in the room is laughing heartily!

    *Be creative: your dress sense should matter o, if not…

    All these and many more do I require from a lady. I hope the manufacturers of ladies can build one up to spec.

    Posted by Niro | June 23, 2011, 5:20 am
  182. Lmao! You’re a crazy fellow…”Discombobulated”??? I can imagine,this nucca is DUMB…I pray he meets this girl tho,he’d be scavenging for scraps like vocal slender by the time she’s done with him..idiattt

    Posted by MsMeena | July 4, 2011, 11:55 am
  183. You will need to get up early than senior wrestlers.

    There are so many great stars that youll wonder why you didnt
    visit sooner. Usually, people will have you apply for a week.

    Of his 6 sons only one didn’t die as a police officer you could be defensive for only so long before you get your WWW costume and mask as soon as possible.

    Posted by jcrew | March 18, 2013, 9:24 pm


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