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Now to today’s business. Let’s take a walk down emotional lane. Today, I want to talk to the dudes. Well, the ladies are welcome to listen too since we know you guys are here anyways. So, I can’t say enough about my love for music. Recently, I heard the new single from Drake titled Marvin’s room off his forthcoming album tentatively called ‘Take Care’.
The moment I heard the first chorus of the song I knew it was one of those tunes that would drive some sort of controversy. Why? Drake did something most rappers find very hard to do. Write and properly deliver something bound to make such an emotional impact. For those who haven’t heard the tune, you can download it here, give it a listen and then come back.
If your internet is shitty, here’s a quick summary ‘Drake paints a scene in which he’s wasted late at night, missing an old love. It’s vaguely similar to the storyline of Lady Antebellum‘s ‘Need You Now’ — except that he knows his ex has a new man, and he doesn’t care.‘ Now, here’s the interesting bit. Lets take a look at the lyrics to the chorus:
Fuck that n*gga that you love so bad
I know you still think about the times we had
I say fuck that n*gga that you think you found
And since you picked up I know he’s not around
I’m just sayin, you could do better
Tell me have you heard that lately
I’m just saying you could do better
And I’ll start hating, only if you make me
I’m sure a lot of guys heard that bit and went “Yeah, that’s what I’m talking about. Tell ’em Drake.. tell those compromising a** sisters the truth they don’t tell themselves”.. Well, like I said, Drake did something most rappers wont do. Yeah, he sings and all but because he still has a reputation to protect he couldn’t come all out singing/rapping what I think he really wanted to say
(Not every rapper can be Diddy). Now, I know what the chorus says but every time I listen to it, here’s what I hear:
Fuck me for hurting you so bad
I know I still think about the times we had
Fuck me for thinking you couldn’t find another
I was praying he wont be around so you’d pickup
I’m just saying, I know you can do better (than me)
I know you heard that a lot while with me
I’m just saying, I know you can do better (than me)
I know I’m hating but please don’t hate me
What am I getting at? Drake comes across as trying to get his ex to cheat/come back to him but upon closer examination, you’ll feel bad for him because he comes of as desperate, lonely and heart-broken. Tell me, how many guys… no, scratch that, how many BLACK men will ever ‘easily and/or openly’ admit to all these things or even one of them as a result of losing a woman?
I listen to songs like Mario’s The Hardest Moment from the D.N.A album on which he sang:
Girl you should go left and I will go right
We wasted enough time
But I think we should kiss
So we can take it with us to play in our minds
And if you feel a tear falling on your lips
Then girl that would be mine
Cause I’m a man that ain’t afraid to cry
See a man that ain’t afraid to cry is a man that ain’t afraid to die
And I just wonder how many black men can truly relate to the words. I got out of my last relationship after a couple of years and though things ended somewhat amicably, I’ve always admitted to close friends that the whole thing hit me – badly. I wallowed (in my own way) for a couple of months and even after then, bumping into each other whenever we had to meet up with mutual friends was always near traumatic for me. But it wasn’t until I openly expressed my emotions that I began to get better (you don’t want to know how many “consoling” women are out there).
Jokes apart, today is all about the guys sharing. The ladies can always help (by consoling) or sharing experiences as well but I’d really like to hear the guys talk about their emotional moments and how they went about dealing with them. Use the comment box and speak your mind. Cheers.