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Betty Tuesdays

The old man’s why.

For those who know me personally, you might have heard me make such a sweeping statement like “Atta is the coolest person in the world!” Well, I won’t go into why I think so. But I’ve brought you one of his shorter pieces to read. It’s a bit different from what you’ve been seeing on here but I’m glad I have versatile readers here. Without further ado, I bring you Atta Otigba’s ‘The Old Man’s Why’.

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I was born without a smile. I do not smile because I must. Long before I learned to laugh I knew what sadness was. I was born in the dead of night, into large freezing hands and a frost-bitten world with nothing but my wailing to call my own. I did not know the hands were large. If I did then I have forgotten and will never know. So I did not. I only knew to scream at the top of my lungs – they would not listen otherwise. It was all I knew and far too cold for smiling.

Now I am old and frail and weary of wailing. I have learned one thing more I did not know before – or if I did, I have forgotten; that nothing stops. Even still things move in time. Perish the wailing. There is now, for me, only laughter. It is all I know and far too late for crying.

I smile before I must. Smile, I must. So I do not wait to have no choice. I smile without a cause. I am not mad, only weary of waiting. There is no reason in waiting for reasons. There is no reason in waiting; if time will not wait then neither will I.

I was born without a smile. But I will die smiling. I will go to sleep with both corners turned up, on one side of a great, grim, grey curtain, and wake up on golden sheets, laughing at the top of my lungs – and they will listen.

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Can you identify any talking point? I’ll just let you guys share your thoughts on the piece using the comment box.

Now, Thetoolsman has mandated me to give away 5 invites to The Naked Convos #1. I’m really not a big fan of these things so I hope this challenge doesn’t come across as too ‘challenging’.

I’ll give out invites to the following:

1. First two people to give me a synonym for the word ‘pulchritudinous‘.
2. First person to name my first ever post on this blog.
3. First person to name all the writers the participated in The Vagina Monologues on this blog.
4. First person to name the other blog I write for.

Good luck.

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Discussion

65 thoughts on “The old man’s why.

  1. .

    Posted by kechilauren | July 26, 2011, 9:02 am
  2. Dang!

    Posted by kayshawy | July 26, 2011, 9:02 am
  3. .

    Posted by bimbo | July 26, 2011, 9:02 am
  4. 1st

    Posted by ameena | July 26, 2011, 9:03 am
  5. 2nd?

    Posted by funsho | July 26, 2011, 9:03 am
  6. Madam Voltron congrats jor. 😀 Where is that Mobanks?

    Posted by highlandblue | July 26, 2011, 9:04 am
  7. alluring

    Posted by dat ibo gurl | July 26, 2011, 9:04 am
  8. first question: synonym is ‘physically beautiful’. 🙂

    Posted by Joachim MacEbong | July 26, 2011, 9:05 am
  9. Beautiful?

    Posted by highlandblue | July 26, 2011, 9:05 am
  10. 😀

    Posted by typicallywoman | July 26, 2011, 9:05 am
  11. 5th? Issokay. We shall see tomorrow.

    Posted by tobicomm | July 26, 2011, 9:06 am
  12. Was it Mammon?

    Posted by highlandblue | July 26, 2011, 9:06 am
  13. 8th?

    Posted by MzDharmi | July 26, 2011, 9:06 am
  14. u people are like vultures. hian!

    Posted by bimbo | July 26, 2011, 9:06 am
  15. Synonym for d word is beautiful…..now whrs ma damn ticket??!!!

    Posted by dhamyhan | July 26, 2011, 9:07 am
  16. admirable

    Posted by StandupChic | July 26, 2011, 9:07 am
  17. sniff sniffff i smell rigging!!!!!!! hiaaaaannnnn!!!! tula come and confess ooo

    Posted by bimbo | July 26, 2011, 9:08 am
  18. Beautiful. The end of a matter is far prettier than its beginning.

    Posted by aot2 | July 26, 2011, 9:09 am
  19. Beautiful. Answer

    Posted by Lady_corrs | July 26, 2011, 9:09 am
  20. Nice post…..I smile a lot…especially after orgasm tho….as a woman it is not easy to get there!

    Posted by ibetapassmynebo | July 26, 2011, 9:12 am
  21. Beautiful,charming,amazing,easy on the eyes,handsome,comely etc etc

    Posted by georgeenah | July 26, 2011, 9:15 am
  22. I smile because I love to. I’ve got the most heart-warming smile in world history 🙂
    I smile without a cause!

    Posted by mabijo | July 26, 2011, 9:15 am
  23. The writers of the Vigina monologues in order are:
    1. @Similicious87
    2. @novacrossqueen
    3. @UberBetty
    4. @RealistXX
    5. @SlimSiren
    6. @Otase
    7.@Ms_Dania
    8. @miafarradaily
    I hope i win 🙂

    Posted by d3ola | July 26, 2011, 9:16 am
  24. Synonym for pulchritudinous is admriable, alluring,appealing

    Posted by tobicomm | July 26, 2011, 9:16 am
  25. 3rd deep post I’ve read today…..

    *grabs scuba gear*

    Posted by Immortal TeddyBear | July 26, 2011, 9:17 am
  26. The writers that participated in Vagina’s monologues are @novacrossqueen, @similicious87, @otase, @slimsiren, @miafarradaily, @mrsdania.

    Posted by MzDharmi | July 26, 2011, 9:17 am
  27. Born into suffering
    Death is the only escape from suffering yeah,if you’ve watched people die..
    They always go smiling
    I’ve seen quite a few
    They just drift off in bliss
    Away away.
    Why you all going to have naked talks anyways?

    Posted by iamsamsie | July 26, 2011, 9:17 am
  28. The other blog you write at: Afrosays to me.

    Posted by 0latoxic | July 26, 2011, 9:18 am
  29. Synonym for pulchritudinous is beautiful

    Posted by aiesecbenin | July 26, 2011, 9:18 am
  30. And u write for afrosays

    Posted by georgeenah | July 26, 2011, 9:19 am
  31. @miafarradialy @ms_dania @realistxx @novacrossqueen @similicious87 @uberbetty

    Posted by Lady_corrs | July 26, 2011, 9:19 am
  32. Afrosays…

    Posted by 'il Cicero' | July 26, 2011, 9:20 am
  33. pulchritudinous – Magnificient

    Posted by kayshawy | July 26, 2011, 9:21 am
  34. me thinks the the old man strives to do what he wants; doesn’t like when his actions are based on what others require of him. Ironically; because he is trying hard not to be predictable, he becomes predictable ……. ‘always’ doing stuff before it is expected of him.

    Posted by niyoo | July 26, 2011, 9:22 am
  35. Physically Beautiful #google x_x

    Posted by JPurkinD | July 26, 2011, 9:22 am
  36. @miafarradaily @ms_dania @Realistxx @novacrossqueen @similicious87 @uberbetty. They wrote vagina monologues.

    Posted by Lady_corrs | July 26, 2011, 9:22 am
  37. Congratulations. You are our first winner.

    Posted by Betty | July 26, 2011, 9:25 am
  38. survivor/independentwoman/ bitch?

    Posted by Domina | July 26, 2011, 9:26 am
  39. Answer to Q4 : Afrosays 😀

    Posted by freshprinz | July 26, 2011, 9:26 am
  40. I have learned one thing more I did not know before – or if I did, I have forgotten; that nothing stops. Even still things move in time.

    People make excuses for not doing anything about situations,dreams relationships(bad or good)etc but,no matter how you look at it,they always be just that…excuses for doing nothing.Realizations always happens a little too late.

    Posted by georgeenah | July 26, 2011, 9:29 am
  41. mammon

    Posted by Domina | July 26, 2011, 9:29 am
  42. homegurl nomics

    Posted by Domina | July 26, 2011, 9:30 am
  43. vagina monologues

    Posted by Domina | July 26, 2011, 9:31 am
  44. Pulchritudinous- syn: Beautiful

    Posted by remi olutimayin | July 26, 2011, 9:32 am
  45. mtn oooo!!! Betty writes for Afrosays to me

    Posted by BoukkieO | July 26, 2011, 9:32 am
  46. “…I will go to sleep with both corners turned up, on one side of a great, grim, grey curtain, and wake up on golden sheets, laughing at the top of my lungs – and they will listen…” My silver lining on a cloudy day. 🙂 beautiful piece.

    Posted by alex | July 26, 2011, 9:35 am
  47. I’m getting there….*phew*

    Posted by kayshawy | July 26, 2011, 9:38 am
  48. You’re very correct. I had to actually read this twice to get ur drift.

    Posted by highlandblue | July 26, 2011, 9:40 am
  49. It’s been a pleasure to have known Attah Otigba since I was an undergraduate. This is just one side of a man with multiple-competencies. An ideas man. His visions are simple, just like the idea of water…and just as deep, far-reaching and so often makes dwarves of the biggest thing on your mind at the moment.

    Posted by remi olutimayin | July 26, 2011, 9:47 am
  50. This particular portion did it for me too.
    I love the general message,a ‘when life gives you lemons…’ sorta thing.

    Posted by theGeneralsDaughter | July 26, 2011, 9:54 am
  51. If you already have an invite, please do not participate. If you won’t be in Lagos then, please do not participate. Thank you. We still have 2 to give away.

    Posted by Betty | July 26, 2011, 9:57 am
  52. The give away isn’t much of a give-away if
    *network continues 2 freeze on potential human-pedias
    *challenge is too much of a challenge
    *’horrible bosses’ n ‘demanding work culture’ won’t allow a sooner new mail check

    Sha, give us all tickets jooo!
    We in lag, n plan 2 attendiyo!!!!!

    Posted by bii | July 26, 2011, 11:07 am
  53. What is the point of this blog? All I see is some people competing for first position – to comment!
    This is so annoying and should stop.

    Posted by benedicta | July 26, 2011, 11:24 am
  54. You people are just blood-thirsty. 😦 *sulks away*

    Posted by cecenostockings | July 26, 2011, 11:44 am
  55. Beht didn’t you read the post? That was the main point na.

    Posted by highlandblue | July 26, 2011, 12:06 pm
  56. Pulchritudinous Post 😉 . . . there is indeed no reason in waiting for reasons. Dont put off till tomorrow what is today’s beacause you seek assurances from without. .

    Posted by @ngeezee | July 26, 2011, 12:13 pm
  57. lol.. u go fear challenge

    Posted by H•A•W | July 26, 2011, 12:27 pm
  58. you’ll learn to scroll past the 1st 10 comments…everyone does.

    Posted by Georgeenah | July 26, 2011, 12:44 pm
  59. So anytime we see you smiling, we shd safely assume we know y! Isshok!

    Posted by kayshawy | July 26, 2011, 2:50 pm
  60. Choi!
    Mr Atta, this is a conspiracy

    Posted by DL | July 26, 2011, 3:25 pm
  61. No be small tin. Vampires yo. Vampires.

    Posted by terdoh | July 26, 2011, 3:35 pm
  62. where can i read other write ups by Atta?

    Posted by ** | July 26, 2011, 4:46 pm
  63. Beautiful post laced with a lot of meaning. There seems to be a connection between it and the most recent one on @banxman’s blog “Of walking and dreams”…I can’t seem to put my finger on it though.

    I just think a smile is like one’s personal affirmation of being a winner. There simply doesn’t need to be a reason to smile.

    That said, take am 🙂

    Posted by awizii | July 26, 2011, 8:20 pm
  64. What a Challenge!
    Well I dont need to have a cause to smile..
    Im ever smiling 🙂
    Back in High school, I was given the award for the friendliest smile 🙂
    BTW i think i frown only when i’m hungry.

    Posted by kemmiiii | July 31, 2011, 2:40 am

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